I am reading an amazing book right now that everyone needs to read. It's called, "The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups." by Leonard Sax. He makes several thought-provoking points regarding the cultural shift from parents as role-models and instiller of values to peers. What this has created is a generation of children who base their behaviors and actions on immature peers and has increased what he termed "fragility." Children fall apart in hopeless defeat at the first sign of a misstep because of fear of how they will be perceived by their peers (who do NOT love them unconditionally). I am seeing this firsthand in our schools and it is actually quite terrifying. Parents, please do not fear the authority you have been given by God's design to provide appropriate boundaries for your children. Stop negotiating (instead of "you may have dessert when you finish your broccoli", it has become "ok, you may have dessert when you eat two bites of of your broccoli"). You are in charge for a reason. When you allow your child an equal voice, you are teaching them that if they don't feel like it, they don't have to. Then you send them to school where rules are enforced and the culture clash begins. What would happen if you told your boss, "nah, I don't think I want to do that today"? Parental authority teaches your child how to be successful. Of course their input should be valued, but you must teach them that the final decision rests with the grown ups. If you do not do your part, you are setting your children up for much heartache down the road. Creating a safe space for children to take risks and fail teaches resilience and how to problem-solve. Authority is not dictatorship. Please know the difference. I think perhaps it is fear of leaning too far the other way that has created this opposite, permissive response. 180 degrees from terribly wrong is usually also wrong. Genuine authority is the middle ground on that spectrum, and that is where your child will thrive.