I have been at my job for about 1 year and 8 months and it has been a total nightmare. Bit of background - I am a successful investment professional with a masters from a top 10 b-school, 13 years of experience, multiple designations and have always succeeded in every job I have had...until now. I find myself in a situation where I am in an abusive relationship with my job. They gaslight me, use me as a pawn (the partners are fighting for future leadership), and have basically set me up for failure since day 1. I have never been treated so disrespectfully/ It is a toxic situation that I am trying to leave but struggling. I know that is has affected me personally and this is coming out in interviews (and also personal relationships). I want to quit with no backup but that scares me so much. Anyone have any experience with this? I am single so rely on myself financially but am mostly worried about how this will look to future employers.
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I was recently fired from my job.
I received a request to interview via Zoom with a company I had applied to in March. The interview was quick (20 minutes) and although it went smoothly I wasn’t sure what my chances were. They have since requested an in-person 2nd interview and I’m not sure what to say about no longer being employed. Advice?
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A growth opportunity weird negotiation
im working for a startup in the US from Spain, Since I live here in Spain I have to register as an autonomours worker to pay for my own taxes which are a lot.
here in Spain companies pay a 25-30% on top of gross salary that goes to taxes and allow benefits like medical coverage, maternity leave etc.
Since my company doesn’t have a presence here i registered as an autonomous and I paid ALL my taxes but I work like a full time employee, there are companies that can help handling international contracts and I presented this option to the company
I work for they told me they could only paid the handling fee ($600) but I would have to cover from my gross salary the taxes supposes to be paid by the employer plus the normal employee deductions, I proposed all
of the above in my current position. When they said they could pay the handling fee but move me to a new position with more responsabilities, managing people which I have been doing already.
They never provided me with a calculation of my net payment in both situation (local contract vs Autonomous worker) I had to calculate everything on my own and I realized it wasn’t worth to have the local contract so I ask them to give me the fee as an increased in my new position and I will keep managing my taxes.
[To offer some context I wanted a normal employee contract cause as an Autonomous worker I have to pay accountats fill taxes every 3 months is for sure and added stress]
in the end they say no and just offered to give a $200 increase and they said that its because my salary is almost equal to my boss’s he is from Argentina and negotiated an extremely low salary for a directors position and of course he is a man.
I feel really bad and even though I want the title of my new position for my resume I don’t want them to announce it company wide cause it was a really bad deal for me, and I don’t want to fake excitement or anythint cause that mostly benefit from them.
what do you think?
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Returning from maternity leave and sales commission
I live in Ireland and have just returned to work after 9 month’s maternity leave which is standard here. I am a sales operations manager working for a sales VP and 25% of my salary is based on sales commission and what the global team make. It is now the 4th quarter in my company’s fiscal year which is the most lucrative and the team are on track to do the best quarter yet. Instead of assigning me a prorated quota for Q4, he told me he would pay out 100% and cap me at that. So while I appreciate that I’ll be paid 100%, I don’t have an opportunity to exceed that. Fair or not?
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Interior office tips needed.
I just moved into a new office and for the first time ever I'm in a completely interior space with no windows anywhere in sight. I've added plants and grow-lights and overall I'm pretty pleased with the space (and the location is awesome in every other way).
I'm having trouble tracking time and it's disconcerting to walk outside with no clue what the weather is doing. I've been looking for a nice clock that shows the weather from a wifi connection to a weather app or website, but everything I'm finding involves use of sensors. Obviously, I can't place sensors around my workplace, and I'm deep enough inside that they may well not work even if I could figure out where to place one.
Any other ideas or recommendations to bring the outside inside, so to speak?
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The execs at my company are giving me “weekend homework” and I’m getting sick of it.
Recently, three different execs have approached me on Friday afternoons with requests for project planning/research to be done over the weekend, with a report back on Monday.
I’m in mid-management. I don’t report directly to any of these execs. My direct boss does not work weekends, nor do they require me to do so.
None of the projects I’ve been given thus far are critical to operations, nor are they really within my scope or skill set. It’s nothing I’m unable to do, it’s just a stretch of my usual duties and areas of focus.
On the one hand, I guess I should feel honored that they recognize my abilities, insight, and ideas and are giving me an opportunity to show what I can contribute beyond my JD.
On the other hand, there’s been no explicit mention of opportunities to grow into a larger role or expand my scope and these projects really cut into my time with my husband and son on weekends because I’m either working or feeling anxious, exhausted, and irritated.
It doesn’t feel worth it, frankly - even if there was a big, meaty promotion being offered I’m not sure I’d want it if it meant being consumed by work 24/7.
How can I delicately and professionally decline to work on special projects on my weekends, while not risking the apparent favor of the execs?
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Is it normal for managerial professional roles to have to provide a three month notice of intent to leave or change jobs internally?
I’m finding that positions I’m applying for are not willing to wait three months to onboard me.
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