What stuff is sexist that your partner doesn’t notice?

Question

Back when we we’re dating, people would ask me, but not my husband, when we were getting married.  Or ask me, not him, to hold babies. My women friends have gotten grief for dating in the workplace while the men they date don’t. What are some of your shared unequal experiences?

Anonymous · Answer

This has become a recent issue between me and my boyfriend, but I feel like a lot of times I am the relationship manager. He usually does whatever I ask him to do in order to get tasks / things done like trip planning, but it is never in the reverse. I really loved this comic that was released a few years back called You Should Have Asked and I've used that to explain to him how much it annoys me.

https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

Anonymous · Answer

Talking about buying a house and he always mentions he wants a 'man cave,' aka a finished basement... why a 'man' cave?! I want a cave too! I always correct him, it won't be referred to as a 'man cave,' so long as I live there!! :)

Lady Pele · Answer

Getting mail addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Doe.  Although that was acceptable in the 50's and perhaps into the 60's, it's outdated as we approach 2020.  It's as if I'm not a person in my own right.  Also, buying my car with only my job/salary/credit taken into consideration and the dealership had the paperwork set up for him to sign.

Courtney Klein · Answer

'So, what does your boyfriend do for work?' I don't mind answering this question so long as whomever is asking it has already asked about what *I* do for work as well -- the biggest problem, however, is that I've never heard anybody ask any of my partners 'so, what does your girlfriend do for work?' In my last relationship, especially, this was pretty striking because I work in a fairly niche industry that most people don't understand so, it always leads to more conversation; for the first 2 years of our relationship had a really bad ass job; and I actually ENJOY what I do, whereas he did not...

Anonymous · Answer

Household chores being designated to a gender. For example, he takes care of the outside of the house, and I take care of the inside of the house. Not saying I'm dying to mow the lawn, but I also wouldn't hate for him to clean the bathrooms every now and then!

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely the same with the getting married question!

Anonymous · Answer

Same with the getting married question! And it comes from everyone - family, friends, coworkers. I always get asked but I think he's gotten that comment 1 time (I get it every month or so lol)

Laura Scalone · Answer

My husband is a self-proclaimed feminist, but in all honesty, he has no idea how much effort it takes on my part to clean up after him. I can tell him that he needs to participate in household duties, and he'll say that just doesn't notice things like I do. Wanna know why? Because boys are not raised to clean up, they just get to play. So, he can't seem to figure out why, now, as a grown man, he's required to rinse his own dishes and put them in the dishwasher on his own. Or why I don't do an Easter egg hunt for all his socks before I do the laundry.

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