From "just checking in" to clearly stating your intentions in professional e-mails.

Do you find yourself starting work-related e-mails with a "just checking in"? If so, this post is for you. Here are 3 quick tips for stopping this minimizing behavior, and owning your asks: 1. Catch yourself before you start composing your e-mail. Many women feel they have to "soft pedal" their way to an ask. Remember, you can be direct AND still be gracious. 2. Choose a more decisive way to open your e-mail. Plainly state the ask or inquiry after a respectful greeting. i.e., "Hello Jane/John, I'd like to know the current status of my project or job candidacy." 3. End with a thank you, always. I often use a "thank you and warm regards" if I know the professional contact well. Once you get in the habit of decisively stating your intentions up front, without minimizing language that downplays the ask, writing e-mail queries becomes much easier for both you and the recipient. They'll know exactly what you're asking and how important it is, and hopefully respond in kind.