This is a cry for help & support from others who might have been in my situation.
Hi all, I've never done anything like this before, but I'm trying to find help/support anywhere I can as I'm in a desperate situation that's been mounting for ~2 years. I work for large very famous company who publicly touts being "diverse" spends a great deal of time & money on PR on how wonderful it is for women working here. My personal & horrifying experience has been the exact opposite. I have volumes of documentation and am now starting to (re)engage with HR & attorneys. I've tried to avoid this and worked extra hard in the past year to manage/repair this myself. As many of you might nod to this, the little incidents in isolation may seem small, they're insidious, and the entire narrative and flow of information is controlled by the leadership (all men, of course). I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown, facing serious damage to my career if I take action when the odds are heavily stacked against me. There is also a huge chunk of money at stake. The leadership team (aka "The Boys Club" internally) has done a pretty good job of painting me with the 'hysterical woman' brush already, so I need to be extremely cautious about how I do this. I also really need to talk to other women who may have been in similar spots... just for support. My friends & relatives are getting quite sick of hearing about it by now. :) I obviously need to post this anonymously, despite how badly I want to call BULLSH*T with a megaphone every time I see a nauseating corporate blog or press release on how great it is here for women. I'm stunned at how I got here and. Now that I've finally chosen to speak out and take action, I'm terrified & overwhelmed at what's before me. I would very much appreciate any advice, empathy, or any kind small words might help a person feel better when she feels so effing isolated and scared. Thanks in advance to any kind anonymous stranger who can help a little. For all the bad stuff that happens in the internet among strangers, I think there's some genuine human goodness here. -Jane Doe
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Excellent Article on How Companies Might Encourage Imposterization
From MIT’s Sloan Review — create a free account to read:
https://sloanreview.mit.edu/article/halt-impostor-syndrome-before-it-happens/
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