Today I had the privilege of speaking at our partner Union Pacific's Women's conference about the themes women discuss and care about in our community. One of the things I was asked to specifically talk about during this speech was how these career themes manifest themselves in my personal career journey and life choices.
So during the part of the talk where I discuss work-life balance, I admitted how difficult it is to be an entrepreneur and mom to 3 little kids. (I don't really use the term "work life balance" because that balance word doesn't really register in any practical way). I talked about how despite having a very similar spouse who is very egalitarian in carrying his fair share of the workload at home, that it would only literally and physically be possible because our our nanny, Dixie.
I shared how in my case, we don't have grandparents or family nearby and therefore we picked someone who had very little of her own personal constraints / nearby family obligations, how Dixie has been on the plane and in hotel rooms with me and a newborn, how we didn't even dare have a third child without consulting her and agreement that she'd move in with us for a year.
This kind of transparency is something that many business book narratives about successful careers often don't mention. Whether its a spouse or partner that stays home and takes a step back in their careers, or whether its grandparents or daycare givers, friends or teachers or nannies, I'd love to hear how women in this community lean on others (so often they are, incidentally, other women) in order to pursue their ambitions outside the home.
PS After the talk, I immediately texted my husband to tell him we needed to give her a raise. =)
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I am new here. I am looking to switch careers. I have been a nanny for the past 2 years and am now looking to switch to a data scientist role. I recently earned certifications from Coursera in Data Science and Tableau visualizations.
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Dear Abby: Employee Feels Passed Over and Stuck in a Rut at Work
SEPTEMBER 30TH, 2023
DEAR ABBY: I applied to be a supervisor at the company where I work. Unfortunately, I didn't get the job. One of my co-workers, who held the same position I did (though with significantly fewer years of experience at the company), was given the job instead. Initially, I tried to shrug it off and continued working as usual. Unfortunately, I find I am no longer able to do that.
Since this co-worker is now my boss, I sometimes receive dictation/instruction from them, which makes me uncomfortable. I have begun to feel jealous -- I'll acknowledge that. I have worked here for 10 years now, and the fact that I haven't been able to move into a higher position has weighed me down. For financial reasons, I can't resign. Somehow, I have to make this new reality work. How do I rid myself of these feelings of jealousy and learn to proceed with my new boss? -- STUCK AT WORK IN THE WEST
DEAR STUCK: One way to do that would be to remind yourself regularly why you are there. Bottom line: You need the money. Life isn't always fair, so try harder to accept it. While you are doing that, it couldn't hurt to look around to see if any other companies are posting job openings. If you find any, make time for an interview, and -- if you are hired -- give your notice.
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I plan on asking for bilingual pay.
I work for a large organization with various departments and divisions. I often speak Spanish and translate documents to accomodate our customers needs. I am happy to be able to do this. I am not compensated for this. There are employees in other positions that are.
How can I bring this up? Should I? Has anyone ever asked and been denied? If I do ask will more be expected of me? How much should I ask for? I just want to hear about others experiences.
My prior employer paid a 5% bonus on top of your base salary which was great.
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Do you call out a former manager that discriminates based on known ADA issues?
How and what forums—ex Glassdoor, Reddit, Fishbowl, LinkedIn
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Managing a narcissist
A lot has been written about having a narcissistic boss. What if you actually have a narcissist in your team who has passive-aggressive tendencies and is slowly destroying your team?
I have four direct reports who are all team leads. About two years ago my boss recommended I hire someone who has worked for him in the past for one of the team lead positions. The resume was good, he interviewed well and I hired him. The first six months were great, he invested in the team and the results have improved. However, soon I started noticing that he does not get along with his peers, is very self-promoting and every time something is not good with his team somehow it is never his fault, he thinks he did the best he could despite somebody else not giving information or making the process complex, etc. He also is pretty good at outside networking and making grandiose gestures to other departments and being very vocal about them, including copying my boss on his "achievements". The problem is that it has become somewhat excessive and also not related to his main work. In the last mid-year performance review I pointed some things he needed to improve while recognizing the help he has given others outside the department. I also pointed out that he needs to work on his communication with his peers. It all fell on deaf ears. He stated that he clearly exceeded expectations, blamed others for the shortcomings, described communication issues as minor, etc. When I discussed this with my boss, I didn't get a lot of support as apparently they are buddies from the previous place and it all became somehow my fault. I realize that I need to start documenting everything to show a pattern, but it has become exhausting.
I started to wonder, is this even a battle I can win? Should I quit?
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This is a touchy subject but I'd like to get your thoughts. I work for a very liberal tech company that I applaud for being gender inclusive. In our offices, we have three sets of bathrooms: Men, women and unisex. Someone raised a concern recently about potentially males using the women's bathroom. Transgender identification is very fluid and on a spectrum in the US, and like most things with sexuality, very difficult to definitively define. The woman was triggered by a person who was outwardly identifying as a male in the women's bathroom. While I appreciate being inclusive, I also appreciate the challenges that can arise for women who have been victims of sexual abuse, domestic violence or other trauma at the hands of men. To suddenly see men in the most intimate space such as a bathroom can be very harmful. Want to get your thoughts on how the company could address this. Or can they address it all given the complexities and sensitivities on all sides?