The fastest way to get from point A to B isn't clear. A straight line would be ideal, but often opsticals arise that force you to deviate and reevaluate.
When you get caught up in the thicket of thorns and snares that life throws at you, sometimes you simply cant keep pressing forward. Sometimes, it's okay to take a couple steps back, spot your goal again, and choose a new path.
I myself have spent the past 4 years in a dying town. I have stuck around, trying to make thjngs work, but I have finally swallowed the hard pill that this place just isn't for me. The population is decreasing, commerce is leaving the area, and people are generally unhappy.
More over, the job market is horrible. Places just keep closing down! My pay in various part time jobs has gone from 22, to 18 to 12 an hour in upstate NY. That's not what a career is supposed to do! This has been my bramble bush.
Now, I am taking a step back. This path won't work... So, I am leaving. I have 2000 dollars in my bank account and no job lined up. I will be crashing at my Aunt's home in Orlando and trying to get a position there that pays a living wage while I work on getting a teaching certification. I know subjects like English, Math and Science are all lacking teachers, and I happen to have a master's degree.
My goal is clear. I have a vauge idea of how to get there, and most importantly I know I won't get there via that particular thorny path.
And so, here is my three step plan.
1. Get out of the thorns.
I leave tomorrow morning! I have a few job interviews lined up in Orlando for when I arrive- and hopefully I can land one to sustain me while I move forward.
2. Clean The Cuts
Thorns leave a lot of small cuts, and if you are not caredul they can get infected. My self esteem has hit rock bottom, my physocal and mental health are pretty low on the totem pole too. So I will take some time to recover. My family isn't a cute all, but they will serve as a bandaid to cover me while I heal. It won't be done over night, it will be a process. But through positive self talk, healthier habbits, good weather and good family, it won't takw forever either.
3. Start Down the New Path
I have three roads ahead of me, aside from the thorny 4th that I have decided is best left alone. I could swap careers, sign up with TFA(or Americorps) as a volunteer, take classes to get my certification, or try to get my certification on my own and land a job in a charter school in the meanwhile. Granted, these are my roads-- and everyone will have different options-- but it's important to identify them and choose one. In my case, I can start down two or three at once and see where the path devides, and choose a little later down the line. I can start the application process for TFA while looking for a job at a charter school, or enrolling jn classes and working in a different field in the mean while.
Whatever path I choose doesn't matter. As long as I am moving down ine I am moving forward.
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I am a recent graduate looking for entry-level roles in Product and Project Management. Can anyone help me to give referral or give some tips for job search in current market conditions.
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Should I Include Self-Employed Job Searcher on My Resume?
Everyone says it is better to have a job than not when searching for a new opportunity. I am unemployed since August 2023 and am working full time to find that next opportunity. If I go back to an office job, it will seriously cut my time spend searching for a new job.
Does it make sense to list my job search as a job on my resume? This is a full-time job, even more so than when I was working. There are a lot of things that go into job searching as well. What do you think?
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Got laid off after complaining to HR
i had issues with my lead like unnecessary touching me and comments like I like you I really like you while all blushing red. After my HR complaint my managers attitude towards me changed and I didn’t look out for a job because I was too lazy to start a new job. And also because I had issues going on at home front. And now at the next layoff 8-10 percent lay off my manger laid me off. I really can’t do anything just makes me mad that the lead who is so creepy didn’t get laid off. Now I am nervous about starting any job. In my tech world it’s so male dominated. I do have 10 years experience where I had no issues. Then I took a few years break and joined back to work and had this creepy lead. Looking for advice to overcome this anxiety.
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Anybody know about proving discrimination in the workplace?
I know that what I have experienced is discrimination (race and age) but need to prove it.
Here are the main points:
I was treated differently from other similarly situated employees. I was held to a higher performance standard while the others got away with everything.
I was blamed for others falling short when we are similarly situated.
I’ve heard racial epithets in the hallway as well as received an email from an executive indicating that they would not hire someone over 60.
I was excluded from leadership conferences, trainings for new employees (when I was the leader of that function).
Company promoted someone after 1 year when it took 6 years for me to get promoted to a management role. Person who got promoted was of a different race and 20 years younger. I was fully capable of doing the job as I received high performance evaluations, and was never asked nor was the position advertised.
My responsibilities have been decreased and reassigned.
I have a plethora of emails from my supervisor and another executive that constitutes harassing and demeaning behavior by them. They were all intentional to impose emotional distress on me.
I have been othered, excluded, bullied, and abused (via email) on a consistent basis.
They have fabricated information about me (in the written form) - defamation and libel.
To sum it up, I have been targeted since 8/2022 when our new COO came on board. He was in cahoots with the HR Manager to get me out of the company. Both lack integrity and I have caught both of them in major lies. The latest was when the HR Manager went to the COO to give notice when she said she found a job. The COO asked her for proof and she fabricated an offer letter from another company and received a $20k raise!
The company was never like this until we got a new HR Manager and COO who are obviously bad apples and are bringing a good company down with their unethical behavior.
I recently resigned from the company as I could not work in such a horrible environment.
I have an appointment to meet with an employment attorney.
Any insights or thoughts would be helpful.
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I’ve accepted my first manager position.
I recently took a new role as a Human Resources Manager overseeing recruitment and retention. I don’t have any direct reports but the first role I’ve held with a “manager” title. I will be responsible for engaging with over 300 employees and I am looking for any advice for someone just starting out. I have worked in recruitment for several years and oversaw various employee engagement initiatives, but I have not had to implement them from beginning to end such as bonus programs, recognition programs, stay-interviews, etc. I am just looking for any advice for a first time manager!