I’m Unemployed and My Husband Hates His Job

Question

I lost my job in November and have been trying to find something new. In the meantime, my husband has been slowly growing more and more frustrated at his job. His boss refuses to hire help, so it’s the three of them doing the work of five people. His boss is apparently taking credit for everyone’s work in front of clients, saying he does it all. So, now, my husband wants to quit, but I need him to hang on until I have a job to keep us going. How do I support him through this without losing my mind?

Anonymous · Answer

Instead of quitting he should start interviewing elsewhere. Its better to leave a bad job for a new opportunity rather than quitting with no back up plan.

Lynda Birmantas Beam · Answer

Much easier to get a job when you have one already, he should definitely be looking and interviewing

James Christine Parker · Answer

@Mathieu  Job hunting with your partner is actually very taxing and difficult.  It's not the same as doing so with a friend or a colleague.  My partner and I are presently doing this.  We usually have great communication.  But we're both stressed, and we're trying to offer advice to one another, and things get testy.

However, I do agree that they should both be hunting.  Just, maybe not 'together'.

Best of luck, Anonymous!!

Anonymous · Answer

I spent nearly 6 months looking for another job after I was fired due to being disabled, because my former employer claimed I was 'let go' for insubordination for failing to stand point, when I had doctors orders to say I was to sit on a stool and not be on my feet for more than a total of 1 hour at a time, since I was in a full walking boot.  They even went so far as to try to deny me my unemployment, so I fought back and filed an EEOC complaint against them.  It took a while to get through the process but I ended up with a small settlement that was enough to open my own business and give me a couple of months of living expenses.  I'm much happier now being my own boss and I'm able to take better control of my own health issues.  I have full control now in who I take on for clients, and about 98% of the time I can perform my entire job at home.  So, I can get up and move around if I need to.

Mathieu Dutour · Answer

Not been in that situation but both of you should look together for a new job for each of you. Helping each other on this task would be great for both of you.

Nia-Alyese Rae Boyd · Answer

My son and daughter-in-law are in the same position, except that  they decided that she would work from home- she has an Etsey shop- is in nursing school, and the children are being home-schooled. At one point, my son was looking forward to growing with the company he still works for, but over time, he has become very unhappy there. He has no plan to quit anytime soon, but his wife supports him best by listening-seriously-and by loving him through the rough times...he's always on his feet, always tired, always feeling beat up; I'm sure you know the drill.  They work together, as a team, and they PLAN everything while co-prioritizing each of their needs.  He's decided to go back to school to prepare for his next career move. That alone, while challenging, illuminates  the light at the end of the tunnel.  Similarly, in your situation, looking for new work while enduring a job that merely pays the bills is a great pro-active approach. Encourage your husband to talk about his experiences. If you are able to work outside of the home, that could help too. If retraining in another field is a good idea for your hubby, support him in that too.  Good luck to both of you.

Anonymous · Answer

I would suggest that your husband wait for you to find a new role before leaving his job. Good luck. Hopefully you both find something new soon.

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