New year, New #ThisIs35 prompt - and it's the last one, #8:
"When your toddler plops into the grass to do “grass angels” then looks up and finds a sliver of a new moon and immediately says, “but how do I get to it?” and decides to march inside and find last Halloween’s astronaut costume, promptly returning outside to deem you an alien and question how you got to this planet called, “what again,” “oh yeah, Earth, where I live.”
When you look up yourself, realize you don’t know how to explain the moon, nor Earth, nor even really how that toddler got here (at least not yet), but that this is it, this is 35 and this IS what it’s all about."
Remember, your story doesn't have to perfectly align to the prompt, it's meant as a thought starter more than anything. This one's truly about the ability children have to put us know it all adults in our place sometimes, in the most fascinating, humbling and inspiring ways - share yours here: https://www.reneecasteelcook.com/be-featured
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I plan on asking for bilingual pay.
I work for a large organization with various departments and divisions. I often speak Spanish and translate documents to accomodate our customers needs. I am happy to be able to do this. I am not compensated for this. There are employees in other positions that are.
How can I bring this up? Should I? Has anyone ever asked and been denied? If I do ask will more be expected of me? How much should I ask for? I just want to hear about others experiences.
My prior employer paid a 5% bonus on top of your base salary which was great.
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Do you call out a former manager that discriminates based on known ADA issues?
How and what forums—ex Glassdoor, Reddit, Fishbowl, LinkedIn
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Managing a narcissist
A lot has been written about having a narcissistic boss. What if you actually have a narcissist in your team who has passive-aggressive tendencies and is slowly destroying your team?
I have four direct reports who are all team leads. About two years ago my boss recommended I hire someone who has worked for him in the past for one of the team lead positions. The resume was good, he interviewed well and I hired him. The first six months were great, he invested in the team and the results have improved. However, soon I started noticing that he does not get along with his peers, is very self-promoting and every time something is not good with his team somehow it is never his fault, he thinks he did the best he could despite somebody else not giving information or making the process complex, etc. He also is pretty good at outside networking and making grandiose gestures to other departments and being very vocal about them, including copying my boss on his "achievements". The problem is that it has become somewhat excessive and also not related to his main work. In the last mid-year performance review I pointed some things he needed to improve while recognizing the help he has given others outside the department. I also pointed out that he needs to work on his communication with his peers. It all fell on deaf ears. He stated that he clearly exceeded expectations, blamed others for the shortcomings, described communication issues as minor, etc. When I discussed this with my boss, I didn't get a lot of support as apparently they are buddies from the previous place and it all became somehow my fault. I realize that I need to start documenting everything to show a pattern, but it has become exhausting.
I started to wonder, is this even a battle I can win? Should I quit?
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This is a touchy subject but I'd like to get your thoughts. I work for a very liberal tech company that I applaud for being gender inclusive. In our offices, we have three sets of bathrooms: Men, women and unisex. Someone raised a concern recently about potentially males using the women's bathroom. Transgender identification is very fluid and on a spectrum in the US, and like most things with sexuality, very difficult to definitively define. The woman was triggered by a person who was outwardly identifying as a male in the women's bathroom. While I appreciate being inclusive, I also appreciate the challenges that can arise for women who have been victims of sexual abuse, domestic violence or other trauma at the hands of men. To suddenly see men in the most intimate space such as a bathroom can be very harmful. Want to get your thoughts on how the company could address this. Or can they address it all given the complexities and sensitivities on all sides?
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I'm thankful to be a part of this community.
I'm looking forward to learning from you ladies, engaging, and hopefully building meaningful connections.
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Doea anyone know what Jacobs engineering uk maternity policy is?
Specifically the required length of service to qualify?