• you have to decide to face your reality
• Accept the fact that "Yes", this really happened to you
• Yes, you the person you knew as “you”, will never be the same. Following trauma, be it emotional, physical, or mental, the experience alone will cause you to be different than you were when you entered into. Like fire changes the composition of the thing it touches, so does grief, deep-seeded pain and suffering. How you come out of it depends on how you process the experience. These three things are important to moving forward successfully.