I am a ‘supervisor’ for a large company. I alone oversee 5 hospital departments across 5 different hospitals. I am under 30 years old with just over 6 years‘ experience with my current company, but with 14 years Of experience actively employed in the legal workforce.
The personnel that are on my team appreciate me and respect me. The personnel working on adjacent teams are respectful, as well. But my superior and my fellow ‘supervisor’ level peers are disrespectful and I might even describe them as somewhat ‘toxic.’ I feel it may be because they feel threatened by me, but I don’t think I’ll ever know for sure. I think I don’t have goals at work because my successes have never been seen as anything other than negative. It’s like If I succeed I take from someone else, if I win someone else loses, if I am appreciated then someone else doesn’t get credit That they deserve. Leading up to success, I feel like others are often implying ‘you deserve a raise/promotion/recognition” until the moment it happens. I am strong and I am proud of myself for everything I have contributed to my work, but patting myself on the back is becoming not enough.
I just want to be proud of a promotion at work. I have a strong work ethic and I am a good leader. Various levels and ages of personnel at my company ask to be on my team. I’ve been promoted at least once for every company I’ve worked for, and i have yet to receive even a ‘congrats’ from my peers for any of them.
In addition to side-eye glances and constant ‘tests’ to publicly question my knowledge in the field, In my current workplace, I feel I have no opportunity to receive guidance. I’m sought out for guidance and input, but I have no one to go to for it, myself.
I work for a major corporation. Am I ridiculous for feeling that i should not be the most competent one around? Am I out of line for questioning how on earth I could be the most professional?? I just want to be taught something by someone. I want to have someone I can go to for legitimate advice or guidance and every day it seems more and more that I am alone. I want to continue being a strong team mate in a leadership role, supporting my team and helping them grow, but what about me?
To be clear, I’ll ask for guidance (sometimes quite literally “can I please get some guidance in this situation?”), it just never shows up and (often literally) comes back around to me, I often answer my own predicaments because someone down the line thinks “she’ll know! Let’s ask her” without even noticing I’m the one needing help. Will this ever get better?
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Colleague is not delivering and I'm going to have to request our supervisors get involved
A colleague I've been counting on to finish reports that are his responsibility to complete and send to our client is just not doing the work. I understand he may be overwhelmed and that the work is unpleasant, but it's been several weeks of him promising these two reports are on the way without any product to share. The client is starting to get antsy and wants a status meeting in two weeks. I've told him, he says it's on the way, and then nothing. I realize he's been with us for several months and hasn't had a review yet, but this is becoming a problem for me and standing in the way of my success.
I'm not one to go to managers and complain about anyone, but this time, I think I have to. What is the best way to do this without getting the guy fired? I know if his boss tells him to get moving on the reports and finish them asap, he'll know I said something.
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Looking for ideas to create a positive work environment.
I was recently hired as the general manager of a large facility with a small staff (less than a dozen). Most of the staff have been there for years. Two are brother and sister. Two are husband and wife. Many are close friends. I'm an outsider hired into the organization in the top onsite management position. I've been warned by off-site management there will likely be pushback. I truly do want, need, and value their experience and knowledge! I don't have much of a budget to work with, so I cannot just offer them all raises. I'd like to create an environment that SHOWS them each they are valued. I will speak to them all with respect. I will verbalize their importance. But I'm hoping some of my FGB crew has some additional, possibly creative, ways that could help me join the team, as the leader, while making sure they all see that they are valued and respected.
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Heres my situation...I currently live in a sober house but am about to get kicked out due to a positive test for cocaine.
They are suggesting I go to a 28 day rehab. I don't want to get fired from my job. I dont qualify for FMLA since I haven't worked here a year yet. If I don't go to the rehab I will have to move to a shelter somewhere in the area I'm in to be able to get to work everyday. What should I do? How do I tell my boss I need 28- 30 days off for rehab? Or should I rough it out in a shelter for a bit until I can afford a place? I need some feedback. Im indecisive!
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I don't know what to do.
I don't know if I should leave my job to look for another, or stay and try to endure. I'm working at a stage 2 company that runs on intern power. This was good for me when I started as an intern and I was kept on as a consultant. I'm a 55 yo Organizational Psychology PhD student about to finish my coursework and start the dissertation. I've been working part-time for this boutique firm, but it's getting hard to bear. The CEO has to approve everything, everything. So, that is a big bottleneck for work. He's also a detail person so his iterations can take hours. For example, I spent until 2 am one night on a client site visit to change the numbering of focus group questions and fonts on an internal document that the client would never see, that sort of thing. I'm supposed to be a Talent Management Consultant, but the Marketing lady left in May and I was given many of her duties and the duties of her intern. Since everyone starts as an unpaid intern and no marketing students are willing to work as unpaid interns, there have been no marketing interns for the last two hiring cycles. So, I'm looking at having to continue doing the intern and the director duties until January at least and then the director duties until May. He also put me over his operations, because I've got operations in my past work history. These aren't my fields.
I'm surrounded by 25 year-olds who have no experience managing anything, much less other people. So, one thinks I've been trained by the other, who thinks I've been trained by the one. When I figure out how to do things myself, they get upset if I miss something and tell me I should have known.
Last week, I was supposed to be off because of schoolwork commitments and I was supposed to work about 5 hours on this one large client project. I worked 19.75 of my usual 20 hours because I kept getting assigned things.
Just now, I've gotten a message from the project manager that the sub-project needs it's own project plan (which will need to be approved by the CEO and go through all the iterations from him). I was supposed to be logged off all next week for a doctoral intensive and now I've got to figure out how to write a plan in line with the company guidelines and get it approved. When I said this was the first I had heard of a sub-project having a separate plan, I was told that it was said repeatedly. When I asked when and where, there was no answer. I asked three or four more times, still no answer.
This is typical of the gaslighting I'm facing. I don't know how much more I can take. They say they said things they didn't and then treat me like I'm an idiot.
Another example is that we're a BYOD business and about half of us use Macs. They use applications that aren't available for Macs and then act like Mac users are idiots when they can't get the information they need to do the job.
It's been so nice to have the extra money for tuition, but I spend about 4-6 hours in frustrated tears over being treated this way and, now that they put me over orientation, seeing others treated this way.
It is a job in my field, at least parts of it are in my field, and it will look like my field on my resume. I'm terrified that I not get hired anywhere else.
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I am hoping to get some advice on making a request to reduce my hours of work.
I am facing increased caregiving responsibilities for elderly parents and some health issues of my own, but I don’t want a request to reflect on my competence in any way.
For background, I have excellent reviews, a stellar work record, and solid tenure at this company. There is an upcoming change in client configuration that would make my request manageable without adding extra work for teammates.
The company that I work for has a handful of part-time workers, but it’s very much the exception and I haven’t found any documentation or procedures that would guide me.
I would appreciate any advice that could be helpful.