Age shamming a bitter truth

Age shaming People nowadays talking about body shaming and all the different kind of depressing things people go through . But the most recent one which hit me was age shamming. At the end of the day one can go to gym or have diet to get their bodies in shape but how a person can reverse his or age . I am 32 and the nost common thing i listen from my family friends and relatives is 'umar ho rahi hai' . And the other one is the body will not be fertile so get married. This breaks my soul apart each time as if the sole motive of a girl in India is to get married and use the body to give birth thats it. Isn't it unfair? If the person got free will marry anyone so why is it so difficult to understand that getting married at any point or stage of life is as common as getting a right job. Why we are forced to get married to any random ones just because that age is passing. This makes a chaos for the everyone around . Women are age shamed a lot more than men. I have seen and heard a lot of men and (unfortunately) women too make comments like, “she doesn’t dress her age” or “that lipstick was too loud for her age” for women who commit the mistake of living their life to the fullest even after passing their proverbial ripened age of late 30s. Why an individual is supposed to follow the hollow norms ? Age shaming is used as a tool to shush women who have opinions Msy be more than holding onto looks, it is the fear of worth being re-evaluated that scares women. Maybe it is the fear of losing the right to have and share an opinion without being called an “irrelevant attention seeking” old woman. I would like to say this loud to all the women out there. Stop thinking about how you look . What's your age. Do things which makes you happy as an individual . Share you opinions . Voice you threats. Don't be a slave to the norms of the society . Live your life. And Yes, so to all the shammers out there, take a good look at yourself; your body, your appearance, your age and stop judging.  The only shame in shaming is being a shammer. Leena Samuel