Yup, it's a thing. And one of the dirtiest secrets in advertising, an industry I can speak to firsthand as a creative director and for the last several years, a senior leader. When female colleagues, former co-workers, contacts and leads just don't bother to respond or offer any kind of help, it hurts more. It hurts more deeply because without those helping hands to lift one another up, we're left to fend for ourselves in what is still (but improving) "boys only" network.
I repeatedly see mediocre men fall up, after doing a mediocre job in their last role (again, witnessing this firsthand). I repeatedly see mediocre men landing the juicy jobs, leading women's brands which I find particularly confounding. I've repeatedly sat at the interview table across from average white guy after white guy, where they've been installed as the lead on beauty, fashion and other heavily (or 100%) female-focused brands. While the more senior we ladies go, the harder it gets to rise up.
Older guys holding executive-level, c-suite creative roles in advertising is commonplace (though they experience ageism too). Older guys holding those same roles on brands for women, commonplace too. So given the rewards are fewer for midlife women especially, why don't those women step up and not just talk the talk but walk the feminist walk?
I know many of the boldface names who claim in the trade publications to support female leadership. When they don't. When their first big creative hires end up being men, when they tell you (me that is), "we don't need someone like you" and offer your male partner a job (when we've interviewed together). When they sit on the women's leadership board of a huge beauty brand, but are so mean to the women in their charge that only the men have survived more than a few years in that agency (and a handful of women so beaten down and frightened it drove me out after only a year and a half).
If I had a dollar for each e-mail I've excitedly sent to get a response like, "I can't help you." Or crickets, even worse. The trick of the patriarchy is that it's done such an inscrutable thing as oppressing women, that now we oppress each other.
I hire for inclusion, and always, always interview more women (and women of color) for the roles on my teams. I seek out the voices of justice in a still very unjust industry. Though I'm thankful for the 3% Conference, Ladies Get Paid, and the movement and fight for equity. Those voices, those women I talk to, are still nervous, still unsure, still struggling with their own success. And that just plain sucks. Because if you truly don't feel empowered, how will you empower others. Where are my fellow Fairygodbosses at?
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I am not quite sure what to put this in the comments.
But at my work, they pay the males more than they pay the females, even if the females have degrees. I have three degrees. The two men that I work with get more then I do. The one that just got hired gets $2 more an hour then I do & has no experience or degrees, the other one has been there one month longer then me & is handsome & never even finished school with a very shady past & gets $3 more an hour then I do. I have also worked in this industry for over 25 years. I’m very upset about this & have already approached management about it twice. Any suggestions?
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I ran across this article on salary negotiation.
The tips come from an Indiana University professor of business law and management. I thought I would share since I've seen posts in the past asking how to negotiate.
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I have been working for a company for over 7 years.
I'm a valued worker and am excellent at what I do. I am an accounts manager and I spend a lot of time working with customers and ensuring the accounts of sales projects are correct and in scope of their contracts. However, our workplace is toxic. The salesMEN are very demanding and demeaning of their coworkers. They are non-communicative, demanding, and rude. The boss seems to be more interested in money from sales than the moral of the overall workers. I have had confrontations with a couple of these salesmen as I try to provide support to them. My boss just told me he wants me to work from home because they feel I'm am difficult to work with. I am concerned about not being able to fully complete my job tasks now as I am isolated from my co-workers. Even though me boss has provided me with computers, dual monitors, phone and a printer at my home, it feels like I'm being pushed out.
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I have a hearing in my county with the Department of Labor and the School System where I worked.
I was a clerk who was forced to resign so they wouldn’t have to pay unemployment. I appealed and now three years later, I have a hearing. Any suggestions on the best way to handle these jerks ?
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I need to build a career as a Class 1 Trucker in Canada.
i dont know how to drive a truck but i want to learn while i work. So it should be a sponsored one.
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Hate that the job searching and application process takes so long.
I'm fortunate to have a job but it's not a career role. I took the role to relocate but I'm finding that the position doesn't afford regular lunch hours to have interviews or provide the PTO I was offered when I accepted the role.
I know it's time to leave but I'm finding it so hard with events I need to run at night and teams during the day that I can't fully commit to job searching. I'm starting to feel that I made a mistake accepting this position but I needed the money. When I do get home, I spend time searching but roles have closed or already received the x number of applicants. I'd appreciate your advice. Is there anything I can do to combat this situation and I'm willing to put in the work.