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Moving back home, yay or nay?
Hi all,
I have made the decision to move back home with my parents once my lease is up in June. Where I’m at, there’s no way for my career to really go and develop and the industry I’ve been trained in isn’t really established here. I feel like my life is going nowhere in this city and I’ve encountered roadblock after roadblock and trauma after trauma. I’ve experienced a lot of dating violence and I can’t make friends here.
The thing is, I’m absolutely terrified. I’ve been crying every day and I’m losing sleep. I’m so scared I won’t find employment where my mom lives. I have until May to find something, but I’m scared that I’m making a huge mistake because I’m leaving a stable job to go back home. I’ve been talking to friends back home who are saying I should apply for jobs now because the economy was hit really hard, but others are saying to wait until the 3 month mark before I apply to anything. I’m just not sure what to do in this pandemic world. I’m just so miserable where I’m living right now and need a fresh start. It also doesn’t help that the friends that I have made in this location aren’t being supportive of my decision.
What would you say to someone in my shoes? Or have you been in my shoes and have any guidance? Any help is appreciated.
Zofia Janeczek
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10/10/20 at 10:06PM UTC
It’s wonderful that you have the option to do so, so many others aren’t so lucky as there is no “home” or safety net to even go back to. I’m completely with one poster on here, you and your mental health are priority #1! This pandemic has done a number on too many people and has probably set them back years due to job and sheer income loss. In these precarious times, anxiety, depression, are probably pretty normal. It’s not easy out there at all. The wonderful thing about life is the same thing that is also terrible, there is way too much unknown. I wish you the best of luck, let your inner guidance system help you make these tough decisions.
JYJ
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10/10/20 at 1:44PM UTC
It sounds like you should be prioritizing your mental health first. What you've described sounds like depression and anxiety has taken hold of you. You won't be in the right frame of mind to be applying for jobs. You need to be in your power when speaking to potential employers. If I'm reading that wrong and you feel well, by all means, keep applying and reaching out to companies for employment.
Anonymous
10/10/20 at 2:04PM UTC
I’m more anxious about finding employment than anything else. My depression hasn’t been bad recently (my therapist things I’ve mostly beat it), but it’s more just sitting with the decision to move and trying to prepare for the unknown. I’m still applying to remote jobs and networking, taking skills classes, watching webinars. I might hold off on apply to in person jobs back home until the new year because hopefully more jobs will be available by then after companies calculate their née budgets. Obviously if the pandemic screws things up, I’ll stay here and keep my job until I find something else.
Melissa NobileHandbell Choir Director
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10/10/20 at 1:02PM UTC
Apply now and see what shakes out! Home is always a soft place to land and sometimes we all just need to go home.
Fe
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10/10/20 at 12:40PM UTC
Would love to hear how it turned out for you! Would have recommended applying right away, worst case is you get a job and have to payout your apartment lease for a month or two. Worth the peace of mind.
Anonymous
10/10/20 at 12:38PM UTC
Don’t give up and don’t give in so consider looking at all the good things where you’re living at now. You moved for a reason. Consider applying for other positions in your area.
I moved from Michigan to Texas after I lost my job after 21 years of service. Huge differences in all areas. Michigan, I was comfortable and safe but with all the challenges both socially and professionally, Texas has made me stronger.
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