Never take a job because you think it's what someone else thinks you should do to progress in your career. Your career is yours alone and should be about achieving your specific goals. If the travel required by this role is 'too much' for what you want, then it's not the right role for you. But I would suggest that next time you get offered something that you don't want, you think more about how to turn that offer into something that you do want. Your company recognized something in you and your work and wanted to give you more responsibility and opportunity for growth - you should try to capitalize on that moment. In future, it might be good to sit down with the people making the offer to see if there isn't some middle ground you could come to or a role you could create that would be a benefit to you and to them. Meanwhile, keep doing awesome things!

I would have said no, too. You have a life with priorities, and if a role does not fit with those, don't take it. I often think of the long game - "Will I regret this in 5 years or 10 years?" It sounds like the answer would be "no."

You said no. That little word allowed you to put yourself and your needs first. Own your self-care. Take a moment to feel proud of the work you do. It is clear that your efforts have not gone unnoticed

I agree with the theme of above. I’m in a similar situation in that I don’t have to leave my current position but have been offered another one. As I’ve also sought advice from others, a pro and cons list helped me but all in all opportunities will come. If it’s not right for you don’t take it. Nothings permanent. As other have said, be in charge of your career and so what’s best and right for you.

You did the right thing. If travelling that much doesn't work for you, it's best not to take the role. You'll only end up burnt out and regretting the change. That said, I'd circle back around with your bosses' boss and HR to thank them for considering you and let them know you would be open to other opportunities that match your skill set and do not require as much travel.

I think you did the right thing. That is a lot of travel and a lot of your time. That is a change that you have to want. If you didn't explain to them why it wasn't the job for you, I would and say that you would be open to new opportunities in the future if they have less travel involved, make sure you thank them for thinking of you. That way you leave the door open for future opportunities.

I think you were right to say no. I also recommend that you keep all of the documentation about this somewhere where you can access it later on if you need to. (I say this because, when I worked at Harvard something similar happened to me and I said no but didn't keep evidence. I regret not keeping evidence because I was LAID OFF very soon after the offer which I could have used as proof that they knew what was going to happen (they also lied about why they did it which I couldn't prove).

When I interviewed for my current position, I was asked how I felt about traveling. I said that occasional travel would be fine but that I didn't want to be constantly on the road. I got the job and it's worked out just fine. You need to do what's best for you and your family.

agree with many of the comments above. congrats on being approached for the opportunity as it highlights attributes that caught your boss/boss' boss attention. The travel part is a component of the new role, but the attributes are crucial in what the org/company is striving towards. I've reached out to many individuals within my org for specific roles and many accepted, while many didn't. For those the role or timing was not right, I appreciated the honesty in where they are in their career and life and in some cases, it helped them gain more clarity for themselves (when voicing it out loud to others). It also helped me for when new opportunities arose as I had a better sense of whether the new opportunity was more aligned with what they shared. Feel good about being sought after, feel good about your decision as you know yourself best.

It takes a lot of courage to decline a role that you are specifically highlighted for, but it shows strength, dignity and clarity to remain aligned to you core values! Too many times we bend and yield to others expectations of us without considering how it impacts our happiness and essentially overall growth potential! Kudos to you for standing in your truth and operating from it! A role that is better suited for your desired work.life balance is sure to find you very soon ?