Is it normal to be blind-sided at work constantly?
August 16,2022 at 7:49PM UTC (Edited)
I've been working at a community college for 8 months as an Admin Assistant to a VP and I was so excited for the opportunity, but there have been a lot of things that have happened that's making me want to run for the hills! I've listed everything that's been going on so it's not too confusing.
1) Upon starting the job, I found out that I'd receive no real training because the one person who was in my role retired.
The exec assistant was supposed to train me, but moved departments 1 month after I started. Plus after the exec left, I was given some of the tasks she did in her role.
2)My paycheck was wayyy less than I thought I'd be making (HR showed me medical benefits but not CalPERS being taken out).
3) The school I work for has no written procedures really, so a great deal of what's done is archaic and everyone's response is "that's the way it's done". Due to this, there are sometimes blurry lines where I'm doing things other departments should be responsible for (like putting in budget strings for part-time faculty that put in a timecard).
4) I'm constantly told of new tasks from different departments that I do, my department does, or extra steps taken for something I didn't know about. These procedures were also made when the department I worked for was twice the size it is, and they expect us to carry the same load.
5) My original boss, who also hired me, decided to leave due to extreme stress, and issues with how the school is run.
Being an Admin Assistant isn't my dream job, and I'm trying to stick it out for a year. It's just so hard with all these things, plus I just moved, and I am commuting 40 - 45 minutes coming and going to work.
My mom and fiancée have also noticed a decline in my attitude outside of work. I'm trying to incorporate mindfulness and exercise to help with the sadness I'm feeling.
I guess my ultimate question is, is being this blind-sided at work normal and would you stick it out or find something else?
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