Just wanted to share some of the irritating things that have come up on the trail as I run for WI State Assembly.
"UR really pretty and got my vote." (great, but does this have to be the reason I get it??)
"Ur really beautiful and u will probably get things done." (because looks are all that matter of course...)
BTW - both of the above comments were by one man on 2 of my FB posts and no one has commented on them to express disbelief that he would actual consider these acceptable comments. Anyway, moving on....
"You'll be the best looking one on the ballot!" (thanks? because they put all of our pictures on the ballot......)
"I'd love to see someone beat [my male republican opponent]. Maybe you could try to push [my male democratic opponent] to victory." (I'm running as an Independent and the look on my face may have given me away as he hastily added 'or maybe he could push you to victory'.......like someone with party backing would really drop out to support the independent.....)
"You don't look old enough to run!" (said as 2 of my male initial opponents weren't even out of college and I'm an established businesswoman in my 30s with a house, family, child, successful career, and successful small business)
"You seem like a very well spoken young lady, but I've always talked to people in a more relaxed way. Sometimes they get offended when they think you're talking above them." (But this is the way I always talk, and if my intelligence offends people we have a bigger issue)
In the grand scheme of things, these comments and such really don't bother me, they are just more motivation to succeed, but so many people in my life don't see or understand the overt or covert sexism that I'm encountering and I just wanted to share with a group of women who will.
On one side, the comments about my age and appearance are flattering, but I've always worked to make sure that it's not the reason I succeed - since my looks are of no value in my drive to help and represent the people of my district.
Some of these comments I've gently redirected, but some I let go. Social media isn't the place to get into it with people, but I find that in person conversations do result in someone listening to and understanding when I discuss with them why such comments are not helpful nor appropriate.
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