Just wanted to share some of the irritating things that have come up on the trail as I run for WI State Assembly.
"UR really pretty and got my vote." (great, but does this have to be the reason I get it??)
"Ur really beautiful and u will probably get things done." (because looks are all that matter of course...)
BTW - both of the above comments were by one man on 2 of my FB posts and no one has commented on them to express disbelief that he would actual consider these acceptable comments. Anyway, moving on....
"You'll be the best looking one on the ballot!" (thanks? because they put all of our pictures on the ballot......)
"I'd love to see someone beat [my male republican opponent]. Maybe you could try to push [my male democratic opponent] to victory." (I'm running as an Independent and the look on my face may have given me away as he hastily added 'or maybe he could push you to victory'.......like someone with party backing would really drop out to support the independent.....)
"You don't look old enough to run!" (said as 2 of my male initial opponents weren't even out of college and I'm an established businesswoman in my 30s with a house, family, child, successful career, and successful small business)
"You seem like a very well spoken young lady, but I've always talked to people in a more relaxed way. Sometimes they get offended when they think you're talking above them." (But this is the way I always talk, and if my intelligence offends people we have a bigger issue)
In the grand scheme of things, these comments and such really don't bother me, they are just more motivation to succeed, but so many people in my life don't see or understand the overt or covert sexism that I'm encountering and I just wanted to share with a group of women who will.
On one side, the comments about my age and appearance are flattering, but I've always worked to make sure that it's not the reason I succeed - since my looks are of no value in my drive to help and represent the people of my district.
Some of these comments I've gently redirected, but some I let go. Social media isn't the place to get into it with people, but I find that in person conversations do result in someone listening to and understanding when I discuss with them why such comments are not helpful nor appropriate.
Shameless plug - if you happen to be in WI and want to check out or help out my Independent campaign, go to www.bartzforassembly.com or www.facebook.com/bartzforassembly
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I was immediately removed from the schedule , and HR told mgmt to remove me for another month until concerns with boss get resolved and the situation blows over. Mgmt is calling it "HR Compliance." Ive stayed in contact about return to work. Found out Mgmt would like to transfer me. I asked about working at original location and was told bc HR Compliance there are very few shifts available. I asked when will it (complaine) will be over and have been ghosted.
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Hi all, I have a dilemma and can use some sound advice.
I got to interview for a great opportunity (I was laid off in Feb, so have been in the hunt for a while) I think I will get this role bc of my experience and bc the recruiter told me the person hiring saw my resume and called him on Memorial Day to get me in the phone.
The job is what I used to do so I'm sure I will excel. The problem is, it's hybrid night and weekends.
I can go into the office no issues on Fri and Sat night but, because I have a 3 year old, I can't do the other nights bc my husband also works nights and we would have different days of going in.
While he would be able to help with our kid, I'm afraid they may give me a hard time and I haven't yet had the 2nd interview to be able to disclose it.
My question, what is the best way to bring this up? I really want and need this job so I don't want to pass it up. Just extremely nervous about it all.
Thanks in advance!
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My Supervisor is too friendly with my colleauges (her reports).
I know that I'm not out of line, as this is so unprofessional. I have a supervisor (she is the manager of the department) who manages 3 of us. I'm relativly new and the other two (both female) are extremely close and "BFF-like" to our supervisor (also female). The three of them share inside jokes all day, and my supervisor constantly takes walks/goes to lunch/coffee with the other two, leaving me alone to deal with our walk-in clients. I've had several talks with my supervisor about this, as well as our manager. He's tried to talk to her (she doesn't "get it," he says) but still doesn't think anything of her actions with my colleagues (he even asked HR if there was a policy for such). It's outright favortism, and it's created so much angst that I have been getting physically sick, and of course, feel emotionally bent. I've never experienced this in my career, and I know that it's morally and professionally wrong. I've done all that I can think of (to include documenting everything). I am beyond miserable and am ready to quit at any moment. It's very, very obvious that my supervisor doesn't want me (she even told me that I was not a part of the team...ouch!) and is more upset with me now that I've spoken out. This feels like high school!
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Changing careers is really hard the older you get.
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Networking is hard and overrated
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