I’ve been told I’m a “super-networker” but I don’t think I’m particularly good at it.
I really don’t like turning up to an event on my own and figuring out who might talk to. And now in the world of video, I still haven’t been brave enough to attend an online network meeting.
I have that fear of having nothing to say, of being ignored, or of getting stuck with someone who is boring. All these fears rush around my head and make me feel anxious, making my conversational skills even worse.
So come I’m known as a super-networker?
I thought I'd share a few tips which helped me:
? Nobody is looking at you. They’re deep in conversation. Anyone who isn’t is someone who might want to speak to you - so look up, show them you are open for a chat.
? People love to talk about themselves, so a great icebreaker is to ask what they do - and listen.
? If you get bored then listen deeper. If that doesn’t work, thank the person for an interesting conversation and move on. No big deal.
? You don’t need to speak to everyone. A few high quality conversations makes it more likely you’ll find something meaningful, and increase the chances of a relationship.
We are all human. We all suffer from anxiety - we just recognise it in ourselves more than we see it in others.
What are your networking tips? Please share in the comments below...