My current lead is someone who was recommended by one of my co workers.

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Anonymous

02/07/21 at 5:05PM UTC

My current lead is someone who was recommended by one of my co workers.

Now there is a huge bias going on and the rest of the members (which we are a very small team) are noticing this too. This lead moved from a different state to be here so I know he's not going no where. But it definitely feels like the two women in the the team, me and another female are being treated like we have no experience and are lesser than the lead's friend. I decided to get another job, but my lead's boss is concerned why I'm leaving and wants to have an exit interview. How do I approach this with him, and letting him know what I been experiencing? It's so hard to talk about these things as a woman without being perceived as a stuck up person.

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Anonymous

02/07/21 at 7:43PM UTC

Since you're leaving, you can be honest. You can also be vague & you don't have to express your exact emotions (or exact examples) if it makes you feel too uncomfortable. You can say things like: "The team chemistry has changed under the new team lead, and it doesn't really feel like teamwork anymore." Or you can say: "Now that we have a new team lead, my experience doesn't seem as valued in the department, so I'm taking a new job where my industry expertise and input are more appreciated." Things like that... where it's true but it's not something that might be perceived the wrong way. You simply don't like it anymore & the team dynamic doesn't work for you anymore & you don't want to stay. It doesn't have to be super awkward. But you can also wrap it up with something about how it was a job you enjoyed and you'd be happy to work for the company again in the future (so as not to burn any bridges).

Anonymous

02/08/21 at 10PM UTC

Yes, definitely make a point on your way out to point out how this hire has changed your team in a tactful way. It will make you feel better and will hopefully help things for your colleagues in the future; other people in the company may not be aware! Have you talked to the other members of your team about this?

Lisa Schneider

Digital Strategy & Product Innovation

02/11/21 at 2:25PM UTC

As satisfying as the gif of Angela Bassett walking away from the burning car is, this is not actually what you want to do. An exit interview isn't the place to vent and burn bridges. So take the notes above that suggest making a single, overarching point in a tactful way but leave it at that, say what was positive about the job, and move on with your life. Save the venting for your friends.

Katrina McNair

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Site Director and Online Educator

02/15/21 at 1:45PM UTC

Hello, During your exit interview I would tell them how you feel. If you already have another job they can't do anything to you. It's best that you inform them of where they made mistakes and caused you to want to leave. They should be understanding at this point whatever you say should be to benefit their company with current and future employees. I hopes this helps. Sincerely, Katrina