Toxic Manager
I’ve been working for the same company for over 5 years. I work in a male dominated field, but for the most part, have navigated my way through. I have been in my current position for over a year. A few months back I was approached internally about an opportunity in a different channel at my company. I went to my boss, who I had a good relationship with, to get his advice/be respectful about being approached. He blew up. He yelled & screamed & put me down. He ended up blocking me from the position because I am one of his best performers and he did not want to lose me. Ever since that, he has had a vendetta against me. He’s made my work exceptionally harder by trying to make me “look bad” in front of senior leadership and overall making things more difficult because he felt that it was “unfair” for someone to approach me about a job because it wasn’t in “his control”. He has used my upcoming wedding as a reason he felt “I was checked out” even though I had plenty of work to prove how hard I was working, he put extra work on my plate vs my male teammates, and has pinned emotional decisions he has made onto me so he didn’t look unstable. I had a major meeting recently with a client that showcased how hard I work and received tremendous praise from the client in front of my boss and senior leadership. & now my boss is telling me how great I am/my work is.
I am desperately seeking advice on what I’m supposed to do. I’ve gone to HR after the first of two times my boss has yelled at me, which I was told from HR that he was emotional and to lay low... Senior leadership recently got wind of how he has been treating me but I haven’t been talked to about it. I am activity looking for a new job elsewhere but until I can change companies... how do I keep my sanity?
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I’m looking for an easy to read spreadsheet to track credit card expenses.
Pretty much just want to be able to break them down in categories without having to label everything individually. Example: office supplies(not what was bought), building utilities (not all listed separately) misc. expenses etc. Something that is easy for someone not very computer literate to read.
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undecided.
I am currently unemployed (a month and a half so far) and seeking a job in an accounting/financing/office field. I’ve been offered a position somewhere that would pay me decently well and fairly close to where I live. It would be great skill set wise with room for growth.
The only problem is that I’m not a fan of 40 hour workweeks, and this job is an 8-5 M-F. I’ve worked 40 hour weeks before and I felt miserable and guilty that I couldn’t spend times with my friends, family, and partner. I felt like all I did was work and had no time for myself. I also have a physical disability that, while it doesn’t stop me from working, completely drains me at the end of a working day. In my previous 9-5 job, I would be asleep by 7 pm and sleep 10+ hours easily.
I asked this company if I could have slightly less hours or a four day workweek and I was told it’s not possible. The company is a reputable state-wide business that I would be happy to work for, but those hours are making me have second thoughts. Any advice?
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I'm looking to connect with a recruiter that's looking for a Mid-Level to director candidate.
I have over 15 years of leadership and strategy building experience. Looking for salary 90K - 120. I keep getting calls from companies that know I'm over qualified for. So I need to connect with someone that can weed out the spam.
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Hello?
I was recently terminated from Playing for a Church As A Musician, but was asked stay until they found someone else to replace me. I chose to not ever remain in that Particular atmosphere of denounced ongoing rejection. Yes the pay was somewhat ok, but it wasn't worth my Peace Of Mind, although I did post for other employment on Facebook, just for backup only,not with an intention to leave that Particular place of employment.,but as I already stated earlier, all of that negatively wasn't worth my Peace of Mind. Yes I still Love every one at that former Particular place of employment, whereas I did post on the group me page of that Particular former place of employment, after Praying and seeking GOD of what to say, I never mentioned my termination, but told each and every member of that Particular Congregation that I was no longer there due to lots of negative contentions. Sometimes a Person has to do what is necessary for the having of Peace of Mind, which can't be bought, nor negotiated. So I highly suggest that Sometimes when we seem to be at our worst of times,just remember that better times,and better days are ahead. So continue to be encouraged and always remember to Keep GOD 1st, in your lives, and things will always work out for the Good...
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Subcontractor -loss of a client to another firm.
Recently, the company for which I am employed as a subcontractor lost a client.... the contract was awarded to another firm... low bid award. After a few months, the company that was awarded the contract contacted me and asked if I want to subcontract with him and handle this client.... I dont think he knew what he was getting into :). My contract with the company that lost the bid states "I am free to do other work ...not for the company". What are your thoughts on me doing the consulting work for this other firm that was awarded the bid..I will be working with the same contacts. Do I let the company that lost the bid know about it? I do have other clients for which I provide consulting work with this company. Want to be ethical but not stupid!
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Helping Hands
Hello! I have been in my current role for around 2 years now. I have a background in computer science and math and landed a non-coding role right after graduating. I went to another company after in hopes that I can get my hands dirty with code again and I was a little rough in the beginning since I haven't been doing it for the year and a half prior to this role. My manager and tech lead-- they weren't that encouraging and fed into my imposter syndrome and even told me that "coding isn't for everyone". I wasn't particularly bad at it-- i was able to help with a lot of features and pages that contributed to what has recently been launched. Since then, i have been pulled out of a developer role and into this customer support role where I am not able to see myself grow or ever get promoted while my knowledge for all those languages I once knew is escaping me. I tried talking to my manager earlier last year about grad school and pursuing a masters in UI/UX/HCI since thats where my passions lie and i can get back to what I have originally intended on doing with more structured learning in a niched subset of computer science but he automatically rejected it saying that he believes this customer support role is "good for my career growth". I was recently part of an internal hackathon where I used python as a techstack to build a working prototype for our idea and i was so happy being able to code again and it felt more like home. I feel stuck and am not sure how to proceed. I'm still early in my career and am afraid that this will affect how my career is paved out right now. The job market is rough right now and im not able to look for new roles either. not sure how to proceed.
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