For the last two days I have sensed some passive aggression from my manager, unprovoked.
April 14,2023 at 1:45AM UTC (Edited)
She is generally impatient, unkind and very unpleasant to talk to and work with, and the daily interaction has worn on me so much that it has made me sick, and I now have nerve pain and stomach pain, which I didn't have before this job. She is about to go on her maternity leave and I sense she is not wanting to "let go" but she doesn't know how to be nice. I took this job not knowing she was going on leave in 4 months, and I feel they purposefully withheld this information. I think there was someone before me that didn't last. I used to think I was strong, but I am feeling weak and tired and I am so miserable that I only sleep and work. This week in particular I felt she was turning against me, not having my back at all but instead telling the company that I am unreliable and, "see, I have to make sure she responds to emails." I sense she might be setting up a scenario for the company to view me as someone they can't trust. I know it sounds paranoid, but it took me off guard because I couldn't understand why she would do this. A direct attack on my integrity and person. Today she sent an email to someone saying, "Has (my name) responded to you? If she hasn't, let me know and I will take care of it for you." I was surprised by this because I was not aware of anyone complaining that I don't respond to emails. She did this with two different people, and it was not like I took days to respond, as in fact one of them I had already responded and resolved, and the other was within an hour or two of the email. She sent other things to me about a something I didn't know to do, wherein she added numerous ??? rather than just telling me that we need to do this particular task. And there were other things that I felt she was specifically directing what I felt to be a hostile tone. She has not been starting with a "good morning" or niceties, but just starts right in on being shitty to me. She has always barked impatient orders and emotionally unaware comments and every.single.day this is just chipping away at my sense of self worth and sense of competence. I used to feel strong in my job and regardless of how hard I work, she just wants to be NEGATIVE. I have dealt with this manager for 6 months and it has been the job from hell. I so very much want to leave and I have two interviews lined up this week, but am feeling guilt about her maternity leave which will be very soon. This week's rampage, email after email and just unkind demeanor toward me, I had to leave my desk (I work remote) and I could barely bring myself to come back to do my work. I often find myself doing this, more and more. I work my tail off. I work very, very hard and she only wants to tell me my shortcomings. I just cannot stand this person. I am not a hateful person, but I am coming to feel like I hate her, and this is not like me at all. I hope the upcoming interviews turn out to be good, and then I will have to deal with my guilt of leaving during her maternity leave, as the company will be very angry. However, I don't think this big company cares about me and they will probably be fine. I have wondered if her behavior this week is to show everyone how needed she is and how terrible I am, since she is going out on leave. I have slowed down considerably as my morale is very low and I have lost my motivation in this job. I go between crying and working and sleeping. I love the type of work, but in this position, I am miserable.
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A hostile environment that makes you dread going to work.
I work in a very hostile environment. I am a Line Cook in an long time established restaurant. Recently, a new kitchen manager was hired. This girl is the absolute worst toxic, raciest, micro"manager" I have ever had the misfortune to work under.
First, she is still in college for business management. I am starting to wonder what is actually taught in those classes. I am a 10+ year experienced manager of multi-million dollar companies. However; my experience comes from moving up the ranks through work experience. I learned the legal aspects through other managers that I worked closely with.
Second, the restaurant is privately owned. She somehow thinks that the business laws do not apply to that type of company.
Ever work for someone who told you how to do your job, but never does it themselves? Yeah, that is the third issue we are having.
Next, she thinks she knows that "best way" to do things and if they aren't done "her" way, it is wrong. We won't discuss that the restaurant has been open and serving for 40 years before she came into the picture.
She hired her wife and promoted her over people who have been waiting for a promotion for years!
She took away everyone's overtime, now only her and her wife have overtime.
She has fired everyone who doesn't agree with her.
She runs with double standards, misinformation, disinformation, or NO communication at all.
She has favorites that will do special favors for her and they do not have to adhere to the "rules of her kitchen".
I went from 40+ hours a week to less than 25 and there is nothing I can do about it because ARIZONA is a "Right to Work" state? THAT is how a hostile environment is created and sustained.
I have to move to find descent work. This right to work crap is just another way to get away with bad business, and there is A LOT of bad business in AZ.
I am filing a discrimination claim, but I don't know what else to do.