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11/13/20 at 4:10AM UTC (Edited)

Career

Standing up for women of color

I feel that the repercussions of standing for being a woman and recognized as being a minority has somehow damaged my opportunity to promote at my workplace with management. I have interviewed many times, continued education successfully, yet I am not being promoted. I rank high during my interviews, however, I do not get selected. This is rather depressing, causing me to pause and think that I should seek work with another company, retire or quit. Thank you to everyone, I think that standing up because one of the managers pointed out to me that "women of my culture were submissive" on my first meeting with her, set me for my "failure" and no chance to promote (she wanted to demote me) but it did not happen. I have worked here now for 27 years and like what I do. My current boss is awesome, but the higher ups who are in charge of hiring and were part of the conversation before, is the hold up. I spoke up and they did not like that. I feel sad, about this, as I am not selected for promotions.

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Emily Tsitrian

speaker, author, coach

11/18/20 at 5:32PM UTC

I am so sorry to hear this - let me start by validating your experience and frustration . Systemic racism and unconscious (and sometimes conscious!) bias exists in every corner of society, and the workplace can feel like the worst of it since it's so tied to our careers, confidence, and finances. I'm not a lawyer, but I do think this is an important instance to take detailed notes, screenshots, and saved emails/communications just in case you decide to pursue legal remedies. Do you know if there are other POC who have similar experiences in your workplace? For your own personal happiness, only you can answer that. Is it worth keeping the fight to break the glass ceiling so that those who come up after you have you to look up to and have a better chance at success? Or - is your life energy better spent elsewhere, such as starting your own company or working someplace else where the dynamics aren't as challenging? It's completely up to you, of course, and whatever you decide to know, know that you've got a tribe of women that have your back and completely trust your abilities and find your ambition fantastic.

Syreen Goulmamine

Molecular Medical Technologist/Health Educator

11/15/20 at 4:02AM UTC

I find that trying to make space for women of color always falls on women of color. It is exhausting. It's time to consider whether it's worth continuing to do your job and carry that labor is worth it. The experience you've garnered will make you a catch for the next place you choose, but you will be in a different position where you can ask for that as someone searching for a better fit.

Anonymous

11/10/20 at 11:51PM UTC

Perhaps your growth with your company has come to standstill. Rather than focus your energy on opportunities with this company. I would try to put that energy to a new opportunity outside of your current place of work. Good luck.

Corrine Taylor-Chin

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Writer & Web Production Professional

11/10/20 at 10:27PM UTC

I'd say find a new company that is committed to inclusion and diversity in all levels of staff. That being said, it doesn't hurt to have a conversation with your supervisor. But trust your gut and move on if it feels necessary for your career growth. Good luck!

Anonymous

11/10/20 at 2:26AM UTC

Is there a possibility to go out on your own?

Wendy johnson

11/10/20 at 1:11AM UTC

Are you checking in with your boss periodically to see if you are on track and where you need to improve to get to the next level? Perhaps your yardstick and their yardstick are not aligned. It also helps set the expectation that you want to advance and deserve to know what it will take to get to the next level.

Barb Hansen

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Startup Product, Growth & Strategy

11/10/20 at 12:43AM UTC

If you are not getting promoted, then I say "back up your talent suitcase", jump on the "find a new job train" and take your skills and your value to "get a better job with a higher wage" company.

Jennifer Nuest

11/10/20 at 12:13AM UTC

I would have an honest conversation with your manager about your opportunities to grow. If you don't make progress there, you should look at opportunities elsewhere. Really evaluate any other opportunities to make sure you believe you will truly have better opportunity. Ask questions during your interview and ask to talk with someone in a similar role to get another opinion.

Anonymous

11/09/20 at 11:54PM UTC

I would seek work elsewhere. It does not seem like the work environment will change. Especially if you're advancing your education, other places of employment will appreciate your worth! Stay strong!

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