With the pandemic the people in my office have had to move to other departments doing not so fun jobs. As the head of the department...I’m by myself holding down the fort.
And I’m done.
They’ve made jabbing under the breath comments. They’re being difficult to work with and just downright mean. I’d the time ever did come for them to return to the office, I’m not even sure how we’d work together. In the six years in position I, for the first time, broke down in tears on my boss’ office. I told him I can’t take it anymore and don’t know what else to do. It’s not my fault they’re not Doing what they want to do...it’s a freaking pandemic! Hey they treat me like it’s all my fault and I can’t handle it anymore.
He talked to one of them and it got turned that it’s my fault and that I’m not communicating enough. I’ve always considered myself to be an OVERcommunicator. I feel like she turned the tables to push blame on me...like everything else.
I want to quit...start looking for new jobs.
I even drafted a letter for my boss saying they’re super unhappy and I seem to be the common denominator and that I feel the responsible the to do would be removing myself.
Is this letting them win? At the same time, I feel it’s vindictive, knowing they can’t handle it. Whenever I’d go on an actual vacation, one of them would inevitably break down because she couldn’t handle the pressure.
Do I let them win or do I give them the finger and peace out?
Also, neither will ever leave. They’re both in lower positions with little responsibility and are very comfortable on their cushy jobs. Both have had opportunities handed to them for a higher paying better title jobs, but neither pursued them. So I don’t see either of them leaving..if it were me on their shoes, I would have been looking and left 3 months ago.
It’s tough because our ownership is the best company I’ve ever worked for and they’re on the process of expanding, even during this economic downtown.
It’s been an emotional week and I love what I DO...I just no longer love where I work.
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Thoughts on this scenario:
Began interviewing for a senior-level position at a global marketing company at the end of October. After 5 interviews I was asked to meet the CEO, CTO, and Managing Director for breakfast in NYC (I live in CT). We discussed the role, the future of the company, and the optimism everyone at the table felt for the future with a few chuckles thrown in for good measure. We ended with big smiles, handshakes and a promise from the CEO that HR would be in touch.
That was last Tuesday and still not a peep. I was laid off in June and need to get back to work asap.
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Unpopular opinion: Holiday parties can be the BEST networking events.
I know the pushback on this one.
"It's a party! We shouldn't be talking business!"
"Don't make something fun very un-fun, Becca..."
"Why are you trying to make a stressful season even more stressful!"
But hear me out.
I'm NOT talking about walking around your work/neighborhood/family party laying your elevator pitch on thick.
Nope. ❌ You will not be popular at that party if you do that.
What I mean by creating wonderful opportunities for networking at a holiday party is that this is a time for you to get CURIOUS about people.
You could spend the holiday party talking to strangers/friends/family about where they parked and how the traffic was getting in.
OR you could ask them about...
✅ What they are working on right now
✅ What they are reading
✅ What they are listening to
You could follow those questions up with more questions and LEARN something new and build a genuine connection.
Then when your party friend asks YOU about what you're working on/reading/listening to, be honest!
Talk about the fact that you're...
✅ Working on making a transition in your career
✅ Reading about a new industry
✅ Listening to a podcast about entrepreneurship
You'll be AMAZED at what cool conversations you can have because you talked with people about real things, and how those real thing conversations can lead to introductions/new companies/more clients/exciting opportunities.
Don't take my word for it. Try it once, just once. Then see what happens.
I have a feeling you'll be jingle bell rocking your way into the New Year and a new chapter in your career!
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One of our faculty often berates and belittles my supervisor to the point that it's an abusive workplace for her.
I'd like to report him, but it is complicated because she is my supervisor, and he hasn't been outright abusive to me. And technically, she probably shouldn't have shown the messages he sent her to me. I've voiced to her that it's absolutely not okay and not normal for someone to treat her like that, but she is convinced it's "just how it is" with faculty (despite him being the only one who treats her like this and to this extent). I'm sure the way to navigate this will be different depending on what universities you work at, but does anyone have experience with this kind of situation? I find it extremely demoralizing, and it's incredibly hard to focus on my job having to deal with him and the way he treats my supervisor. Any advice or recommendations are appreciated!
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Reaching out for a helping hand :(.
I was seeing if there was anyone on this platform who has had experience of an appeal process with an employer and Unemployment before that can offer a quick chat or or share advise/suggestions a part from getting all my paperwork together.
-Resigned due to toxic environment
-Tried my luck with UI and got approved
-Employer is now appealing
I am nervous and I absolutely suck at advocating for myself and really could use a helping hand.
If you are open please let me know if I can send a message to you directly.
ANY HELP would be much appreciated.
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Advice Request: Transitions, Promotions and Boundaries.
Hi FGB Community,
My employer, like many, lost several talented folks during the pandemic. Getting their replacements up to speed during the remote-work time has been challenging.
My supervisor has been dangling the promotion carrot for the last year or so and they’ve been candid that I’m already performing at that level. I would agree. I know these things take time and it’s frustrating but par-for-the-course.
Now into the current challenge/opportunity. My supervisor has stepped up, leaving the position between myself and them vacant. I’ve been clear that I do not want that position, for job satisfaction and personal reasons. That position is one step above the promised-promotion. I want an outsider to come in because I think that would be best for dismantling some entrenched patterns.
But we’re constantly onboarding new staff, and I find myself covering some of the responsibilities of that 2-up position due to leadership vacuum and my own tendencies to not tolerate dysfunction.
Recently, my supervisor began dumping further tasks on my plate, and I said “Listen, you can’t keep doing this. I’m already burnt out. Please come up with a plan that involves developing more skills in some of the under-engaged or newly hired staff.” Their response was tired/cranky/retaliatory and in the vein of “Listen, we’re all in the sh*t, get in here with me”.
Wasn't their best moment. They made their own choice to step up. I’m uncompensated for the work I’m already doing.
So, any advice/thoughts on whom to involve if this gets worse or how to hold boundaries? I’m a little wary of my organization’s HR solely based on some of the outdated or disorganized trainings we webinar in to. I do belong to a union but have never considered trying to find an omansbud. At present we’re onboarding new staff without the position of their supervisor filled, so several people are covering it partially, and I anticipate a bumpy several months.
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I am working in an environment where I’m not utilizing my skills or growing.
This is making me rethink this position. I have over 36 years of administrative experience with the last several years at executive level. I have my bachelor’s degree in business administration and accounting. I want to do something else, but find that people who say let’s talk or say they’ll help don’t keep their word. I learned a while ago that I have to advocate for myself and my goals. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt when others don’t come thru.
If I want to shift to contract analyst or acquisitions, is there anyone here that can provide suggestions on what I need to do to get exposure?