I am currently in (what I think is) a bizarre situation. About 6 months ago, my dept. boss was promoted to a new position. She was great, and she really deserved the promotion. When the new boss came in, things changed drastically for me.
He has only met with me once to discuss my performance and what I should work on - and this was at my request. I also requested that we meet on a schedule - he said, okay, every two weeks, I'll put it on the calendar. That was almost three months ago, and a second meeting has never been scheduled or happened ad hoc.
He has redistributed or dismantled everything I was the primary worker on. He never gives me work unless I ask for it. I mean this in a literal sense. I have to go around to him and/or the other people at my level and basically beg for work. I'm at the point where I am reaching out and offering help and assistance to the other people every week (sometimes 2 or 3 times a week, depending on what I get back). When I message the boss directly, he gets back to me after an extended time and rarely has anything specific to say to me. I end up just doing afterthought add-ons to projects the other 3 are working on.
My position is project-based. I have one continuous project I'm working on, but it's not time-consuming in the least (and it's going really well - it's with a different department, and I've gotten no complaints from anyone over there either). I have finished a few other things that I have begged to do over the past few months, but my daily workload is a joke. I'm constantly scrambling to find things to do.
Some context and contrasts:
I met with my past boss every week or two. She gave me feedback, direction, and/or new projects.
New boss has 4 total direct reports (including me). In his previous position at the company, he had more direct reports than he does now.
New boss meets with the other 3 weekly, like clockwork (for a while he was meeting with them daily).
I think he is giving the other 3 an increased workload - they are so busy they often don't have time to respond to me about sharing work with me (we have to set meetings to chat, or they get back to me during their breaks/lunch). In meetings, they all talk constantly about how busy they are.
Things that were previously my responsibility have be re-delegated to the other 3. Things that fall within my specific job description are given to the other three. I don't think new boss has ever assigned me anything that did not result from me directly asking for more work (and following up until I get something out of him).
Most of my new work is coming from the other three direct reports.
With increasing frequency, meetings that have previously been very important for the whole team to attend and participate in are "optional" for me because they will be talking about things that I "don't need to worry about."
New boss has given me no feedback - other than vague platitudes like "This is great" or "thanks for your help" but he doesn't give me work or tell me why he's not giving me work - If I suck at the job, and that's why he's avoiding me, at this point, I would LOVE to hear that. I feel like I'm barely an employee at this point.
What do I do in this situation? I'm looking for other jobs, and focusing on up-skilling like a madwoman. But my confidence is completely shot. I don't know why I'm being pushed out like this. I keep wondering what I've done to end up in this position. Since I can't get any feedback, I end up assuming it's because I'm an idiot and unable to communicate and my work sucks and... etc.
I'm honestly afraid to bring up the lack of work and feedback more directly because new boss's behavior seems so deliberately exclusionary at this point. Will pointing out I have barely anything to do give him more ammunition to fire me or eliminate my position?
The reason this post is so long:
I have no idea what to do. This doesn't make any sense to me. I've never turned down an assignment - even when it was something tedious and unimportant. I've never been told my work was unsatisfactory or been given a bad performance review (the whole time I've worked at the company). I'd be glad to do anything at this point, and I try to communicate that by being as grateful and helpful as possible when I do get work.
What do I do? Do I just have to resign myself to begging for work and feedback until I get let-go or find a new job?
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7 interviews for 4 positions in the same company; no offers.
This has been over just the past three months. I'd like to think that they are looking for a place to put me. But I feel more like I'm continually failing or just not good enough to be employed in this market.
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Should I ask for more (and how)?
I had an initial interview and they said they were budgeting $X-XX (10k span). I said we are probably not a good fit because the lowest I would take is 10k above their highest number. Realistically, I would be happy 20-30k higher (to be consistent with my current role). She said she'd take it to the hiring manager to see what they say. She came back and said they'd still like to interview me.
I'm further into the process now and understand the department was created in the last year and is growing. That makes me think they might be more flexible on the salary.
If I were to be offered the position, can I only really ask for that 10k I said I would consider or should I ask for more? It's tricky because the salary for the position title they have is appropriate but not for what they actually want (the scope is much greater than the title).
Do I ask? What do I say?
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Women who switched careers to Product Management, can you guide me towards getting my foot in the door/any advice?
Apologies for the detailed post but I'm in the "someone please help me" stage of this search and want to provide all the info that can help guide me towards to right audience/mentor:
Fairygodboss ladies, I'm in need of your advice/ the advice of anyone you know who has made a career switch into tech (PM) roles!
I've been trying for over a year to break in and it's insanely tough. I've spoken to people who switched to PM (non CS/Engineering) roles from things like project management, consulting, and creative marketing, but their advice was more akin to "It was luck/ I knew someone who would give me a chance."
These were people (mainly men) who worked for places like META, Microsoft, and other tech software firms and came from non STEM backgrounds with 0 CS skills.
I've exhausted my personal network search and applied to so so many APM, PM roles, including super entry level. And nothing. I'm hoping someone here might have a better approach/have connections who would be willing to give me a chance.
My academic background is in Econ & International Relations (BA), and a recent MS in Negotiations & Change Management practices, with a focus on behavioral neurobiology + courses in biomedical engineering principles (neurotech/BCI/VR) and med tech/device commercialization. I've also taken courses on PM strategy and UX/UI design.
I worked in the international project management/consulting + creative strategy space for some time before grad school, led a few projects and teams from the ground-up (contract consultant for consulting firm's project with US Dep. of State), and most recently have been competing (and winning) product innovation competitions and hackathons.
I recently designed an innovative med device product prototype (hardware+software), pitched my detailed deck to VCs+ entrepreneur judges, and was given advice to patent the idea!
Currently, I work as a product researcher (ed tech/behavioral change) space, giving suggestions for UX improvements, doing market research, and creating business plans and go-to-market strategies for our current products, in addition to researching the science behind what we sell.
I also consult startups in the neurotech/VR space on the side on their business planning and product strategy+ launch.
I'm not picky as to what products I'd manage and have proven to be quite innovative and adaptable in my career. But I'd love to work with products in the wearables (AR/VR) hardware/software space, software for med devices, or health tech apps.
If anyone with advice/contacts who might be willing to point me towards opportunities to get my foot in the door can help me, I'd be forever grateful!
Thank you so much for reading this (long) post!
TLDR version: I need that Fairygodboss women-supporting-women magic to help me get my foot in the door for product management jobs :)
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What to do when you're applying for different types of industries and sectors?
I customize my resume for each application but my LinkedIn is a minefield. I add in the missing sections on my resume that target my nonprofit work including charity events, donor relations and fundraising but 90% of what I'm applying for is in the corporate sector.
I find that even though I've spent time customizing my resume, recruiters check out my LinkedIn and then find those skills are 'missing' online and then I don't hear from them. Does it send a mixed message if I add those in on LinkedIn or stay what's more applicable to the majority of my applications? Thank you!
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"Providing Solutions Is How You Turn on Employers"
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What's a typical ask for an increase in pay after being at the same company & position after 10 years?
I've maintained the standard 3% increase every year (along with everyone else company wide) with no large increases. After 10 years, I broached this topic with my boss yesterday.
The Forbes article (https://www.forbes.com/sites/sarahdoody/2022/11/16/staying-in-a-job-for-too-long-can-hurt-you-financially-heres-why/?sh=17bd2a40487f) that states “employees who stay in companies longer than two years get paid 50% less” has me really wondering if I've been a fool for (A) sticking around too long, or, (B) not making this ask sooner.
What would the recommended percentage increase be to ask?
Keep in mind our company brings in and average of $5.5M a year and close to 50% of that is from my efforts.