entering engineering at a later age, and wondering about how to time starting a family.
So, I'm 32 years old and one year away from finishing my first undergrad in computer engineering. I'm really excited to jump into the workforce but also my husband and I have been putting off starting a family due to financial instability (one of the reasons I went back to school). The idea of trying to have a kid in these last intense semesters of my degree seems to be setting myself up for failure. Though the student insurance would make it basically free from a medical cost perspective.
At the same time the idea of accepting a job after graduation and then immediately turning around and getting pregnant/going on maternity leave doesn't sit right with me either.
I know so so many women my age and even younger that have struggled or are struggling with fertility, and it freaks me out to wait several years to establish my career a bit before even trying to have a kid.
Do any of you have experience with a decision like this? Or just some advice or insight into any of those scenarios. I know there are amazing women who have been single moms with newborns going through law school etc but I guess I just don't find the advice "hey just be a superhero" to be super practical, ya know? But then would taking a job and then going on maternity leave 9-10 months later make me a terrible person?
Anyway, thanks for listening. I look forward to hearing your opinions.