So I need some advice here. I'm a CFO and I work in a very hostile work environment. The ED, who is also my boss, is the cause of the hostile environment. He's completely unprofessional and yells and cusses at people. He gets upset and throws a temper tantrum where he's throwing paper and just carrying on. Many people in the department are intimidated by him and I've noticed that he's a very insecure leader. Recently, an employee resigned. She completed the exit interview and had negative things to say about my boss. Well, HR sent him the exit interview and he sent it to me . The exit interview is supposed to be confidential so I don't know why HR sent it to him and didn't investigate the things the former employee mentioned. I also don't know why my boss sent it to me, but I'm sure I'm not the only person he sent it to. I've been fortunate enough thus far to avoid his wrath. I try to keep our interactions limited while I continue my stealth mission to find a new job. So he comes to my office the other day and just starts going off about the exit interview. I was completely uncomfortable. He stated that the employee was a bum and loser, and that he'd make sure she never gets hired at any of the company's other locations or our partner companies. He called her a "B" and used other profane language. I've been dodging my boss ever since the incident and the good thing is he's been out of the office for the past couple of days. I guess he needed a sounding board, but it's not me! I was offended by his language and behavior, and his immature sentiments towards the employee. I'm impartial when it comes to the past employee; we were simply colleagues and I didn't know her that well, but as a woman I found his rant to be anti-woman for sure. But the fact that he's also bad mouthing her to others is wrong. I read her comments. She simply stated that it was a hostile and dysfunctional work environment, there was no room for advancement, and that the ED isn't supportive. She didn't go into details about his behavior which I'm sure she witnessed in the time that she worked for the company. And her comments were true. I feel an obligation to say something to HR because I'm a manager and not only have I witnessed his behaviors, but he got me involved when he sent me the info in an e-mail. At the same time, I don't trust HR because they shared confidential information. What can I do? What should I do? I know I definitely need to leave and I'm working on that, but at the same time, I feel that my time here is a waste. Is he going to bad mouth me too if I leave or provide a bad review? Is it safe to put this job on my resume knowing how HR and my boss act? Do I just find a new job and leave others here to suffer?
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My manager does not listen.
she will jump in and take the conversation in the wrong direction and provide wrong information.
I tried telling her the client had issues with something, she cut me off and said the contract is under review that’s why the issues. It sounded wrong so I clarified but she further explained the contract being in review. I know my information was clear therefore I believed her. During a meeting with my client I passed along the info and they had no idea there was contract issues and after they emailed my boss and I.
my boss responded that she was not aware of any contact issues. Now the client is confused why I told them there were issues and even questioning my abilities.
She has done stuff like this before, today in a different client meeting she made me look incompetent.
how do I address this with my boss or do I just ignore her when she does it? my worry is sounding childish and being a complainer but I also don’t care to look bad to clients.
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I would like advice since I was never born or raised in the US
I received a job at a company as a sales representative. They have a base pay but it is based on making presentations to people and not an hourly pay. The only person I am close to that understands the US systems is my boyfriend. He has made me feel bad about all the sales rep jobs I’ve tried to get and I listened to him because based on what he says they sound like scams. But this particular job I think is a great job. I can work from home, I can pick my own hours and all but even this one he says “it’s a contractor position” and that means it’s not good? I can’t find anything online about that not being good and it just feels like a negative thing for him to say. He was saying it seems too good to be true but once he found out it’s genuine he now says I will essentially not make much since I will be paying taxes as a contractor. I plan on getting a day job for constant income but making the sales job more like a side hustle. So before I commit to this I would like to know if he is right or not. He says that’s a bad idea, but I would love to know why he thinks this is a bad idea because I don’t under the US systems around this at all!
PS: the company is Vector marketing. I don’t know if I’m allowed to mention the company or not. If not, I’m sorry and I will delete the post.
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Approaching month 7 of being laid off.
I recently got my job rejection letter after 3 rounds of a (seemingly) successful interview process; which took a total of 2 months, BTW. I am of course left feeling DEFEATED, however. I am wondering if there should have been something within the months-long process I could have done or inquired about etc.? Like a clue to have let me know hey, they aren't as serious about hiring you as it appears. Just in an effort to be better prepared for next time, that was a huge waste of time I actually missed out on the Job Fair
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May I just vent for a minute? And feel free to commiserate. Over the last 2+ years (actually, probably since mid 2020) I have had countless interviews. Interviews in all shapes and sizes (I'm in HR, by the way, for what it's worth, but I'm speaking as a candidate). I have been in interviews that were the most pleasant experience ever, some where I felt like it was an inquisition (one particular instance, I went through 3 rounds over several months, wasn't really into that job but needed a job, totally thought I bombed it and then when I called to withdraw when I landed my current job, they were upset). Brady Bunch-style Teams interviews. In person with facemasks (which led to one of the worst headaches I ever had). All kinds of different scenarios. And I tolerate them, I do. I applied for a reason, I will follow through and take each rejection in stride and withdraw for what is not a good fit for me. But out of all the different interview styles I've experienced, the one I absolutely hate, is the one-sided recorded video. Hate. Double hate Looooathe that style. I just did one last week (second time in my career I have had to) and I almost withdrew my application once I realized that was the next step. Anyone else find those particularly torturous?