The article I just read— “25 Low-Key Plants Perfect for Your Office”, or something like that, has me lusting after a ZZ Plant and mayyybe another cactus or two! (I have six already, so I probably don’t need more, but they’re SO cute!) And who doesn’t love doting on something to help it grow?
Okay, maybe some of us don’t like it. Some of us are even bad at it. (Me!) Hence my low-key plant search ;) I’ve killed like four orchids, even after having an orchid expert re-pot a gorgeous lavender one for me in the hopes that it would flourish.
Finally, I realized that I don’t have the right light source for orchids— Fun fact: they LOVE direct, eastern light, and all I have is indirect northern and southern. So… no orchids for me.
Serious whomp whomp.
But all of this plant contemplation got me to thinking about working with what we’ve got. I’ve got the capacity to help a plant live its best life, but I have to work with my north/south light situation.
And we’ve all got the capacity to help ourselves shift our mindsets and grow our inner confidence, but sometimes we have to work within our boundaries and personalities.
Emma Watson was not born to be the same kind of confident as Rupaul or Amy Schumer. But she certainly IS confident.
You were not born to be the same kind of confident as everyone else. But you certainly CAN be confident.
Sometimes you have to work with what you’ve got— and not let comparisons hold us back from trying entirely.
There is SO a way for you to grow courageous and confident, sweet friend! It’s true. You just need a little guidance on how to make your northern and southern light work for you :)
I crafted a quiz that helps you to follow a path to confidence for yourself. And I created it for a few reasons:
>*>*>*> Because quizzes are fun. They just are! There’s probably a scientific study somewhere on why we humans love quizzes so much, and it probably talks about how we love gaining insights about our big beautiful brains.
>*>*>*> It gives you some of those beautiful brain insights about bringing your confidence A-game in a way that’s authentic to YOU.
>*>*>*> Science and research are important to me as an educator, and I’ve studied enough about good ole psychologist Carl Jung and his theories on personas and archetypes to know that there is some good theory in there (even if it’s not given as much ra-ra-PR as Freud’s theories).
So while quizzes are just fun, there’s some REAL insights to be discovered and uncovered here. Because bottom line, babe, you are SO ready to be courageously, unapologetically Confident! You ARE! I promise.
And you can be, as long as you’re not trying to grow orchids where the cacti belong. Love yourself, own your heart, and know that there are strategies that are perfect for maximizing YOUR brand of confidence.
And I’ve streamlined them for you!
You not only get a quiz that tells you your ideal confidence style, you also get a little 10-page workbook filled with:
>*>*>*> Love letters and pep talks from me to YOU!
>*>*>*> Information about your confidence style
>*>*>*> HOW to start applying that confidence style to your mindset
>*>*>*> Action steps for getting started
It’s perfect for a Saturday morning coffee reflection sesh, or a late-night light-a-candle-for-yourself-and-drink-wine sesh. (If it takes you longer than 30 minutes, you’re probably over-thinking it. Embrace your inner cactus life, babe. Let the comparisons go. Love who you are).
And right about now you miiiight be thinking, this is NOT for me. Quizzes are dumb and there’s no way I can be confident anyway.
And to you I say: Stop, sweet friend. Stop selling yourself short. You deserve to be confident, and you can claim this for yourself in an act of fabulous self-love.
There are so many ways to be confident, and being the calmly confident YOU that you were meant to be is possible for you, sweet friend! Whether you find yourself to be a little sweet, or a little bookish or a little goal-oriented, or reallllly into cacti, there is a confident side of you just waiting to grow! Nourish it.
Take the Quiz:
Love, and cheers, and warm cactus vibes from me to you,
P.S. When you finish the quiz, tell me what you think of your results!! I read every email I get and I seriously LOVE hearing from you <3 :)
P.P.S. Here’s the link to that plant article, if you’re just drying to flex your green thumb at the office!
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I am struggling with a hit in confidence.
Will be let go at the end of the year for reasons that are not me - senior mgmt doesn’t value the role of operations, financial troubles, not our first round of layoffs. And I’ve made peace with leaving but in trying to find something new, have gotten no interviews at all. Probably applied to 70 jobs or so so far. That’s what is hurting my confidence. I know I can do well and in interview but having a hard time getting in the door. Any advice or services that have worked to successfully get you an interview?
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I am working with a new partner for a new project who straight away assumes negative intent.
We are working on a new project for which there is no precedent. It’s very early and very little has been defined. Specifically, they accused me of ignoring their requests for work. Meanwhile, I was out sick. I personally Messaged them to let them know that I could not meet for our first 1:1, and my slack status clearly said i was out. That didn’t stop the person from writing a message in a public forum that I was unwilling to partner—a group whose support I will need to deliver bold visions.
When I met with them after returning for illness, I came to know that they have a deliverable they want me to green light. (Though they didn’t present anything to
Me.) Then accused me of not helping with the deliverable. Something they did not communicate until 3 days before its deadline. I do not have a single email, slack, calendar invite, etc stating mentioning this deliverable. Further, this task is contrary to what the overall program has ageeed to, a meeting that I was privy to, and this person was not.
Their communications were heated, aggressive, and disrespectful. They explained a concept to me, then, when I was silent (not wanting to get trapped into agreeing to a scope of work that was not my place to agree to, which was clearly her MO for our first 1:1) they assumed that I didn’t understand. They said in a very snarky tone: “well I don’t know how to explain this to you any further, it’s very simple, if you don’t understand this I don’t know what to say.” We are sort of peers with many years experience. I am in a strategic role and part of leadership Conversations that this person is often not included in.
On insight is: they indicated that they came up with this same idea years ago, despite not knowing (and being privy to) leadership conversations that say what the idea is… that seems lilke classic turf wars.
I often tolerate very bad behavior. How can I stop this before it gets out of hand? It seems they are threatened by my role and intend to continue speaking to me in this manner. My belief is, if you wouldn’t speak to an executive that way, don’t Speak to me that way.
I am specifically seeking advice on: who should manage mitigating cross-team turf wars and managing aggressive communication and aggressive actions.
i am empathetic To their feeling of being left out, but specifically, I need advice on how I should manage the situation.
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I am a soon to be qualified accountant and I have seen great disparities between different companies in their accounting department.
Unfortunately, I did not qualify via a big 4 company or a top 50 accounting company.
I have worked for both private and FTSE listed companies and have noticed a difference in their accounting methods/styles.
I have spent the majority of my career as an assistant accountant. However, my new role is focused on management accounts and client reporting.
I am nearing 30, and I am very worried I am lacking core accounting experiences that would put me in a favourable position with employers.
My current employer does not have a distinct hierarchy/support systems for promotions or any development opportunities.
I would like to be in a position where I can know the integral parts of accounting which will allow me to be confident in taking on a management role.
I have seen all the finance directors have been ex big four auditors / ex auditors in general so they have a wide breadth of knowledge.
How can I improve my accounting knowledge , so I can learn about all departments and begin to think as a strong accountant.
I would appreciate if someone could provide advise on how to climb the ladder in accounting . My interest do lie in treasury accounting but I believe I have mistakenly joined this company without thinking about the development opportunities available to me.
What is the normal career path of an accountant? I graduated in 2019 .
How can an individual become a strong accountant and differentiate themselves from their competitors?
Thank you in advance.
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I graduated in MS in Supply Chain Management August 2023. I have enormous experience in leadership role in fast moving shipping company based in Asia Pacific. Currently, support family owned Real Estate Investment company where I am in charge of all investment portfolios as a project manager. I am competitive, full of vigor with analytical skills and emotional intelligence. I really want to move career in Supply Chain Management. The only thing that has stood my way is “Fear” of my 63 lifelong experience that can offer so much insight into everything. Please provide me real feedbacks. ?
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What is the easiest remote side gig I can find?
Looking for something to supplement my income while unemployed and while looking for a permanent position. Is it customer service or data entry or doordash? What have you done while in career transition situation for money?
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I recently was promoted within the organization to an executive assistant to the VP.
my first 3 months were extremely busy, stressful and confusing. Had I not been in the organization for 10 years in a previous role, I think they may have fire me.
fast forward and I’m sitting here so bored. The department has ebbs and flows and I was told this at my interview.
I know in no time, I’ll be running around again.
My question is, should I ask for more work during this intermittent downtime or ride it out.
I have been the dumping ground for people’s responsibilities in the paymasters so I want to try and avoid that this time around.
Also, the position I am in is the highest I can move. So I really don’t have to prove myself in order to get another promotion. This is my 4th promotion in the company in 11 years. I really don’t plan to move again.
What would you do to keep yourself so you don’t get someone’s busy work.