Dealing with Toxic People isn't easy. What do you do when you have to manage a toxic relationship?
Coach Gen X Women|Host Modern GenX Woman podcast
April 9,2020 at 11:17AM UTC
Over 70% of people have indicated they've had to deal with a toxic person in their life, it could be a boss, a co-worker or your mother-in-law. Whoever it is, often times there are so many layers that you can't escape.
We cannot change how toxic people act. While we would like people's actions to fall into what we believe are societal norms, unfortunately, we can't change them, nor do we have the right to change them.
When dealing with toxic people, we need to learn to set boundaries for ourselves so we can protect our mental health.
Here is one of the best tools for managing these situations. Start creating if/then scenarios that you then follow through with when they arise.
For example, if my mother in law shows up at my door unannounced, I'm not going to let her in. If Lisa asks me again to drive her kid to and from practice, then I'm going to tell her I have other commitments and cannot drive both ways.
When you set up boundaries like this in your mind you can then act on them because you'll be prepared on how best to handle the situation.
Want more on Toxic Relationships? Check out this week's episode of Make Your LIfe Magnificent, the Podcast here.
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