How do i tell my sister that i hate her boyfriend?
January 18,2019 at 7:38PM UTC
so my sister is a very successful woman. great career, very put together, great and kind person. her boyfriend.. i thought it was a phase but theyve been dating for a year now and it doesnt look like he's going anywhere. he's got and lost 2 jobs in the year and he is drunk... all the time. she really deserves better but i think she is too nice to see his flaws. how can i let her know she should move on ?
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