How do i tell my sister that i hate her boyfriend?

Question

so my sister is a very successful woman. great career, very put together, great and kind person. her boyfriend.. i thought it was a phase but theyve been dating for a year now and it doesnt look like he's going anywhere. he's got and lost 2 jobs in the year and he is drunk... all the time. she really deserves better but i think she is too nice to see his flaws. how can i let her know she should move on ?

Ceci · Answer

He's drunk all of the time? Ooof. Do you think your sister realizes that?

Explorer257452 · Answer

Just be there for her. You cannot make her give him the boot. But you can help her to see that he is going to ruin her life.

LisaD · Answer

Let her know you love her enough to have a difficult and uncomfortable conversation with her. Using 'hate' will more than likely create a defensive reaction immediately shutting down the conversation. Try letting her know your worries about her, share how you feel about her (the wonderful things about her-  why she deserves so much more-but in other/softer words than he's a drunk... making it about HER not her drunk unemployable beau),  and be curious about what's going on for her- compassionate curiosity without judgment. Even if she doesn't jump right into the conversation, she'll know the door is open and that you're coming from a place of love and compassion with  her best interests in mind.

Anonymous · Answer

This isn't the answer you want to hear but I think it's sometimes best to have them figure it out themselves.

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