How do I tell prospective employers I left a toxic situation?
Baking Office Professional in Saint Petersburg
September 14,2020 at 3:59PM UTC (Edited)
I was fired from an office manager position 3 years ago, at 35. The working relationship between my boss and myself was very strained, and I was the only office employee in the company, wearing more hats than one person should, and severely underpaid for it. He treated me and the other employees like we were all robots. When I was told to stop working overtime, but there was no way I could do that and still get my work done, I had to keep a list of every single thing I did while I was at work, so I could justify my time on pay day. He would call me every day after work, and talk about work for more than an hour, every day. As soon as I put those hours into my pay, I got screamed at. He made it a point to text me on the weekends about how horrible a job I was doing, curse words and all, and told everyone at work I was the heart of the company. When he finally fired me, I was already looking for another position. When I phone interviewed for that new position, I had what I later understood to be an anxiety attack, and realized I needed to take some time to allow myself to heal. It’s been 3 years now, and I want to get back into office work. I have been self employed for three years now, doing courier work and started my own business from home. I don’t know how to go about the interview questions without explaining that my last office position became toxic. I gained so many skills in that position, but I will never be able to get a good recommendation from my former employer. Office politics was never a strength of mine. How do I navigate this?
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