How to gently explain to a colleague/friend that they absolutely do not deserve the raise they're thinking about asking for.
December 10,2019 at 5:06PM UTC
I work with a very good friend of mine who, until we started to work together, I didn't realize was a complete slacker in the office. She sits in a bullpen with some of our other colleagues with whom I am also close, and they frequently mention her complete and total lack of work ethic. I'm talking spending hours at a time playing games on her phone, leaving a document or project on her screen and never touching it, coming in 2 hours late and leaving with the rest of the office, or going out for multi-hour lunches.
In the year that she's been here, she has turned in 2 products (the average on my team is about 8 per year) and while they've been well done, she never makes the deadlines and has to have her hand held the entire way through. Another, higher paid colleague of mine is leaving and now my friend has it in her mind that she can ask for what equates to an 11% raise (company average at 1 year is 5%) because "she does good work."
Now, I don't contest that, but she does good work at a quarter the speed of everyone else AND our work is all just as good - and on time. Beyond my general indigence that she fails to see how asinine this request is, I also worry that if she walks into our supervisor's office and asks for that much it will reflect so poorly on her that she'll be putting herself in hot water. Additionally, we have another colleague who is, in my opinion, far more deserving of a raise than she is and who gets his work done well AND ahead of schedule - he hasn't been here as long and is nervous about asking for a raise yet (we have a very dumb culture here, I get it - that's a different issue, though).
What is a gentle way that I can explain to her that she absolutely does not deserve an 11% raise and should hold off on asking for anything until she's no longer behind on every single project she is assigned to?
Thank you, in advance!
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