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Lost your “ish” at work??
Have you ever had a time where you completely lost it at work? What was the situation? Were there witnesses?? Any blowback/consequences?
Post a time when you have hit your boiling point at work.
Katie Henderson Ladyboss752675I am an expert in all things visual.
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03/04/20 at 6:51PM UTC
Just curious... have you? This is an interesting topic!
Trish Calles WilliamsContact Ctr Applications anlyst for maj airlne.
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03/05/20 at 3:59AM UTC
Actually, I did. I had been feeling extremely overwhelmed, and my boss had been hassling me about a project that was one more thing on my already-full plate. She had been pecking at me like a buzzard pecks roadkill. I finally lost it with her. Threatened to go to HR, and stormed out of the conference room. I am not sure, but I feel like everybody outside the room heard what was going on. Maybe it was the way I slammed the door?
Anyway, I went back in and we talked it out. She’s still a total micromanager, but now, she knows how it makes me feel.
Katie Henderson Ladyboss752675I am an expert in all things visual.
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03/06/20 at 1:21AM UTC
"pecking at me like a buzzard pecks roadkill" got me laughing! I'm glad you went back in- that took courage.
Marian SkupskiAnalyst and Agile Coach
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03/04/20 at 5:30PM UTC
Several years ago I totally lost it with a coworker and said many bad things. Mind you, this same coworker was known for doing the same thing with many others in the company, including his direct reports.
After I had cooled down, I went and apologized. It was clear from his reaction that it never occurred to him that apologizing was something that should be done. It still makes me chuckle (because otherwise I would cry angry tears).
Maya Shoucair
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03/03/20 at 5:25PM UTC
I totally did recently, had a lot happening in my personal life and was frustrated at some things happening. I just walked away for a couple of hours to keep my cool. I could have handled it more maturely but also know that's what I needed to do in that situation.
The aftermath was positive, we both shared feedback in a really mature way and found mutual understanding. I think it helps a lot to let the embarrassment and ego slide and just acknowledge what went wrong on both sides so you can deal with it in a more mature way.
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02/29/20 at 3:08AM UTC
My MO is to “take a lap” which sometimes entails grabbing my coat and walking around the block. I firmly believe that swearing is a sign of intelligence and I also firmly believe that I am a role model in the work place and can’t afford to lose my sh!t in the office. I do have a Dammit Doll that has taken a beating now and then!
Anonymous
02/28/20 at 7:42PM UTC
I hate to even admit this because I'm pretty calm at work. It was when I was a processor years ago and I worked with a team of about 8 people. There were two guys on my team who seemed close as they always went to lunch with the same group of men on a daily basis. One of the guys was a very hard worker and the other one goofed off all day. Every morning when I would come into work early and the goof off guy happened to be there, he would always talk really bad about the hard worker; but when that guy came in, he was best friends again. One day I had enough and just let loose on him. After I cooled down, I thought I would get in trouble for it because of someone else on the floor hearing it, but nothing was ever said to me. I highly don't recommend doing that but at the time I did it without even thinking about it.
Anonymous
02/28/20 at 4:28PM UTC
I pride myself on being a very friendly, calm, agreeable person (especially in the office!), but one time at my last job, I just hit a breaking point.
For about a year, I had been asking my boss to hire some new team members. For background I went from a team of 5-6 to just me, with my Director leaving and not being replaced. I was working very long hours, I was burned out, I was constantly stressed, and for a year I was doing the duties of a coordinator, manager, director, producer and admin all with a boss who didn't really care. Finally, I got word that we hired someone to help. I was not consulted or asked to interview this person, even though she would be reporting to me directly. Not only did she have no experience, but she was hired with my salary after 4 years at the company(!!!) all because she was somehow related to someone important. By the way, no one discussed any of this with me, I just got an automated email to approve her title / salary. I WAS LIVID.
I was visibly upset and angry and vented to my very close coworkers but I also took it straight HR (who honestly didn't really care at the time). I didn't receive any punishment for being upset or anything like that—they were in the wrong after all. And the next day, my "boss" called me into his office to give me a huge raise. Not the way I wanted to receive it as it was in talks for over a year, but I guess it could have gone worse?
Still upset sharing this story, by the way.
Trish Calles WilliamsContact Ctr Applications anlyst for maj airlne.
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02/28/20 at 7:20PM UTC
I couldn't tell! Thanks for sharing :)
Alison HarrisGlobal Digital Marketing Leader
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02/27/20 at 9:54PM UTC
I’ve totally been in that situation, lost it completely at one of the Product Managers who kept missing deadlines and making excuses about how it was every other team’s fault for their errors. This was a pattern of behavior that had been escalated a number of times to their management.
Finally, lost my freaking mind at the delay of delivery for information we needed for a press release and media kit, and told them they were a “stupid excuse for a human and completely f-ing useless as a product manager and colleague,” this was on a call with 30 other colleagues and a few VP’s.
Total silence on the line, a clearing of a voice, and the VP of product marketing said “Well, those aren’t the words I would use, let’s cut this call short and I’ll sort out the issue.”
I was “talked to” by my VP about using more productive language on calls, but he laughed the entire time he was saying it to me and gave me a high-five on the way out the door.
The positive side is that the PM was let go for multiple issues and no one missed deadlines when they worked with me.
Sometimes losing your mind is worth it, you just have to own it and make no apologies.
Rebecca Jones Automotive finance
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02/27/20 at 7:53PM UTC
One time I stood in the doorway of someone's office and shouted "what the f*** is this sh** and how does it get on the books?!?"
Everyone with an office in that hallway heard it.
Most folks were surprised and a few thought it was funny. I have had a prior reputation for being mild mannered, so it broke some "nice girl" stereotypes.
My manager at the time did confront me about it later. I said, "Yeah, that was me. She and I saw this was a problem account before they signed up, and they were still granted a huge line of credit. Now they are hiding documents, and it's frustrating that no one cared."
He was satisfied with me acknowledging that I had the tantrum. I didn't really get in trouble for it. If anything, I think it gave me some street cred.
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