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What does resiliency look like for you?
On February 22 I was in Miami for a girl's weekend.
On March 7 I was at a friend's 40th birthday bash.
On March 13 Long Island closed the schools.
On March 20 Cuomo closed New York for non-essentials.
As of today, I've sheltered in place for 6 weeks. I would never have thought it possible a year ago.
There is no guarantee of what tomorrow will bring.
Life changes on a dime and we need to be prepared to pivot or be left behind.
Humans are resilient. We are capable of coming up from the ashes to be faster, smarter, stronger.
Resiliency isn't about the physical body but of mental stamina.
For me, resiliency is about,
+ Not giving up no matter how difficult
+ Have a metamorphosis to survive and thrive
+ Overcoming obstacles
+ Choosing to keep going, choosing to fight
What does resiliency mean to you?
Angie McCollumTransforming Your Life One Wise Step at a Time
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04/30/20 at 12:52AM UTC
For me, situation has been an opportunity to demonstrate for my 7th grade daughter that we can and must switch gears/pivot when circumstances change. She watched me navigate divorce from her father, move and renovate a house, change direction in my career and start a small business, and remarry, so now we've gone through a pandemic. I have no doubt that she will be resilient, flexible, and overflowing with fortitude when she is an adult after learning through all these situations that life is what we choose to make it, not what is "done to" us!
Jackie GhedineCoach for Gen X Women | Jack Russell of Humans
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04/30/20 at 2:05PM UTC
There will always be adversity and it is what we do with it that shapes and formulates us. How lucky is she to have a mother who is so resilient and strong as a role model. Her ability to navigate and thrive in life is a direct reflection of you! #gomom Isn't this the greatest gift we can give our children, especially girls (I have a 6th grade daughter). LOVE this.
Angie McCollumTransforming Your Life One Wise Step at a Time
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04/30/20 at 2:26PM UTC
Thanks so much for your kind and gracious words! I sincerely appreciate the show of support!
IrinaHelping you become a coach or a consultant
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04/29/20 at 10:30PM UTC
I guess it's exactly what you're saying: be able to pivot in front of sudden unexpected changes. Good point!
obe
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04/29/20 at 4:11PM UTC
Resiliency for me is to graciously accept each day with the hope of being safe and strong in order to have continuity at home and work; to let go of those times when I’m feeling burdened by meditating; to reach out to others to let them know I care just the same and even more now than prior to these times. Seeking inward comfort helps me to stay grounded so that I can truly be resilient.
Jackie GhedineCoach for Gen X Women | Jack Russell of Humans
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04/30/20 at 2:02PM UTC
Beautifully said.
obe
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04/30/20 at 5:43PM UTC
Thank you; means a lot to be validated.
morales971An essential worker for the power of positivity.
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04/29/20 at 2:35PM UTC
Great post, Jackie, and one we can all relate to. I think each person's resiliency will, in part, depend on what support they have, what their responsibilities are, and where their focus lies. I like to think we are incredibly resilient, particularly given our world history (world wars, disease, famine, climate-related devastation, terrorism, etc.). Right now, we are dealing with something almost none of us have ever had to accept before. This pandemic is teaching us so many things.
Mainly, what I think we took for granted just weeks ago. I hope within the next year or two, we manage our resiliency well enough to learn to appreciate things like healthcare, federal funding, quality leadership, proper self care, technology, and the all-encompassing power of community. Stay safe...
Jackie GhedineCoach for Gen X Women | Jack Russell of Humans
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04/30/20 at 2:01PM UTC
Appreciation is one of the greatest gifts that will come out of this. Appreciation for family time, appreciation for health, appreciation for doctors and nurses, appreciation for teachers.
My personal hope is that we think as #humanfirst - adding more compassion, empathy, kindness, patience and understanding.
Jackie GhedineCoach for Gen X Women | Jack Russell of Humans
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04/29/20 at 2:23PM UTC
Gina, what an incredible battle you faced and are still facing. What a story of resilience, persistence and determination.
Life throws us many curveballs and some land right in our gut. It isn't easy to get back up and fight. It isn't easy to not say, 'why me,' hearing stories, like this propels me to push forward.
Through this journey, were there any incredible insights that came up for you? New beliefs? Changes in what you think or accepted? I'd love to know!
Sending you a virtual hug. Keep up the fight, you're an inspiration to women.
Gina DiamanteNews Editor at KPBS, San Diego's PBS/NPR station
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04/29/20 at 1:24PM UTC
I like your definition. It resonates well with me. A year ago last Sunday I was admitted to a hospital with a new diagnosis of multiple myeloma. It's an incurable but controllable cancer. This past year has been an exercise in resilience, dealing with the disease and managing the side effects of the medications, culminating in a stem cell transplant last October that left me in "plastic bubble"-style isolation for the better part of three months.
For me, 2019 was all about not giving up and making changes needed to literally survive. No more joking about being dead within a week if I needed to take a pill every day; now I do take several pills every day to keep the cancer and its effects at bay. It was about dealing with challenges, whether it was the effects of the chemo or the annoyances of insurance. And it was about choosing to fight, although I could never imagine doing anything else.
Compared to that? For me, 2020 is a breeze.
MommalenociFamily Law Paralegal
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04/29/20 at 2:56PM UTC
Sorry to hear about your experience. You’ve got this. My husband has Hairy Cell Leukemia which is also incurable “for now”. A woman I met reminded me years ago when he was diagnosed that cures can come.
I have kept that in mind through my diagnosis of recurrent ovarian cancer as well. Over the last 6 years 4 surgeries, 6 months of chemo, almost 60 radiation treatments and one brachytherapy. I’m on meds now to try and keep it away.
Positivity and choosing to find is definitely the way to go! BTW love San Diego! Our oldest daughter lives there. I was supposed to be there next weekend for her bridal shower but wedding postponed until next year due to COVID19. She’s a behind the scenes worker keeping medical facilities staffed and has been working every day to do so. On call 24/7. Crazy while planning then moving a wedding.
Anyway I veered off ... my point is stay strong, and #fightlikeagirl.
Jackie GhedineCoach for Gen X Women | Jack Russell of Humans
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04/30/20 at 1:58PM UTC
#fightlikeagirl
Ellie
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04/28/20 at 6:16PM UTC
Jackie, I love this post! Thank you for putting this into perspective. I feel most resilient when I set small, non-quantitative goals. For example, when I continued to move my body after the beginning "quarantine laziness." I don't try to run a certain number of miles or hit a fitness goal, but just move to make me happy. It makes me feel like I'm taking care of myself and I know I'll come out of this stronger.
Jackie GhedineCoach for Gen X Women | Jack Russell of Humans
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04/30/20 at 1:58PM UTC
Ellie, getting rid of the should's in our life are so important like I should run 3 miles today. That language does more damage than good. I love that you are moving how it makes you happy and fuels your soul.
SOFÍA COVARRUBIASEclectic, multi-lingual, techy, into-yoga-girl
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04/28/20 at 1:21PM UTC
Thank you for sharing Jackie. Your post served as a reminder of how it is meaningful to put some "hard data" around what we have been able to achieve throughout this lockdown. For me these first 4 months of 2020 have been incredibly exciting so thank you for helping me add perspective with your post. Stay strong, woman!
Jackie GhedineCoach for Gen X Women | Jack Russell of Humans
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04/30/20 at 1:53PM UTC
The idea that your first 4 months have been incredible exciting is like listening to a harp playing beautifully in the background! What a gift. Stay strong as well! We've got this.
Beth CaldwellFounder of Leadership Academy for Women
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04/28/20 at 4:03AM UTC (Edited)
I love this topic and I teach corporate workshops about it often. To me, resiliency is being able to recover, our bounce back, after being bent, stretched or compressed. This can be from emotional or physical stress or adversity. Women have great bounce-back ability and the more practice we get the more resilient we become.
Jackie GhedineCoach for Gen X Women | Jack Russell of Humans
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04/28/20 at 11:24AM UTC
No one believes they are as resilient as they are and yet, here we sit, 6 plus weeks into shelter in place!
Kirsten M TrammellCreative writer and freelance content creator
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04/27/20 at 10:50PM UTC
I think resiliency ,simply put, means facing a struggle and not giving up. We all have the strength within us to do SO much more than we think. David Goggins has said we only use 40% of our human capacity and at times I believe that...there are these profound moments of resiliency I see in people (myself included) where that extra 60% steps forward from within you, and that is so powerful.
Jackie GhedineCoach for Gen X Women | Jack Russell of Humans
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04/28/20 at 11:23AM UTC
Resiliency is a gift I hadn't heard of David Goggins 40% capacity, but I absolutely believe it. If we are running 95% of our day using our subconscious mind, there's no doubt that we aren't at our fullest potential.
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