Waiting for the axe to drop
I have a new boss who is very different than the one I had for 5 years at the same organization. Needless to say one of my boss’ peers and I had an issue earlier this year, I shared a project experience with some industry peers that cast him in a negative light. The things I said were factual however I did not use the best presentation to describe it and he took huge offense.
For whatever reason I wasn’t fired on the spot and instead have been stuck in a strange twilight zone for months. During the initial meeting with him I explained my reasoning for sharing my experience and I was assigned a coach. Nothing was ever documented in writing that i know of, if it was it was not shared with me. Needless to say I have been actively job searching because this person has made my life difficult, he has the power to fire me at any moment and my boss doesn’t want to cross him so he goes along with whatever he says which makes for incredibly uncomfortable meetings (the three of us meet regularly). The coach is very nice but I have no idea how long these coaching sessions are supposed to last, if I am being graded on them or what. I asked the coach and she just replied “it depends”. The coach reports to him.
Meanwhile every day I worry I am going to be called into an office and fired. I am trying to continue doing my job well but it’s difficult knowing he is lurking and may have a plan to get rid of me. Hirings and firings are generally made by him even his peers don’t have the ability to pick their own direct reports or fire them.
The comments he made to me during the initial meeting with my boss have made me bitter, it is very obvious he hasn’t liked me for a long time
but he didn’t have the same leverage over my old boss to get rid of me. He apparently dragged up every negative thing anyone has ever said about me and threw it in my face, things like “No one here likes you”; “I know you said X about Y and I told her you said it” and “You have a terrible attitude you are negative about everything” generally just embarrassing me in front of my boss all the while smiling at my boss. Awkward AF right? oh and telling me I am great at my actual job function.
I think the plan is to make me uncomfortable enough that I quit, I was denied a bonus for work completed last year without explanation, I get the cold shoulder from this guys staff (I assume they were told) and it’s just damn uncomfortable but I can’t speak to anyone at work because I feel like people are always listening to report back to Big brother if I say anything negative.
Aside from taking a stiff drink every day at work any advice? (I am
joking of course I don’t drink at work) I don’t have work friends/confidants so i cant share this with anyone because I don’t know who his allies are. Everyone I explain the situation to outside of work can’t believe the power this individual holds when they are not the CEO (that person has no time for small stuff like this) I am using my network and applying for new jobs but my field is specialized and I feel like everyone is on vacation so I am not getting call backs.
And one last item, the coaching has been valuable in helping me to better chose how/when I share experiences so that I don’t get into a situation like this again. It’s funny and sad but a number of folks have told me it sounds like I work in the White House because this man’s behavior is similar to what we hear in the media.
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In today's post on my blog "Reimagine," I share 11 ways to bring your dreams to life and the transformative implications that can have on your work life: https://lnkd.in/eTFFma7w
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