Anyone have issues with a boss/superior not respecting you after you return from maternity leave?

Question

I'm having issues with a male boss not respecting my needs to pump and doubting that I'm putting in the hours, even though I bring work with me into the pumping room and work through lunches.

Anonymous · Answer

Thanks for your question. Fairygodboss will be providing a more in-depth answer in an upcoming Career article. It sounds like—as subtle as it may be—you’re experiencing gender discrimination. First-time working moms often take on extra responsibilities, thinking that the burden is on us to prove that we can keep up after baby. This sets a dangerous precedent; if someone is discriminating against you, the responsibility is on that person to stop. Remember, stress inhibits your letdown, and no amount of work is going to convince someone who doesn’t support your choice to pump to change their mind. Reach out to your coworkers and find a mentor who understands the struggle of having an infant and who prioritizes their own family. Your needs to pump are federally protected and are not a matter of respect. Take this problem to HR—that’s what they’re there for. They can correct the situation and help your boss to understand that your need to pump is your right and is not up for debate.

Anonymous · Answer

Research whether your company has policies on pumping while at work (many do) and also whether your state has laws that could protect you (some do). These can help you greatly. You can also speak with HR to get their advice/input.

Anonymous · Answer

How is this manifesting itself? I guess I'm only asking b/c I was worried about the same thing until I talked to someone who was close to my manager (not in my line of reporting) and they basically assured me that I was the one worrying about it....but assuming that you're not just imagining it, perhaps you just need to have a straight up talk with him about it and tell him you're committed and just want to make sure that he knows that...I mean, I would prepare for this conversation by bringing proof, listing data about things you've done since your return, etc so that it doesn't come off as just sounding defensive

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