Am I overthinking possible sensory/anxiety disorder ?
Trying to keep it short. I am a first time mom. 2yr old daughter. Born premature with severely underdeveloped lungs. Asthma,sleep apnea, lots of food allergies bad GERD . Lots of hospitalizations. Pulmonary, Gastroenterologist, ENT, Neurologist. All of her developmental milestones met and exceeded. She speaks in complete sentences, spells her name, dresses herself, potty trained, etc. HOWEVER she cannot tolerate social interaction with friends, family, her father, other children and adults. As much time as she has spent at doctor's and hospitals she loses it Everytime. Because of her medical issues her father and I agreed that I would stay home with her until she became well enough for daycare and I could pick up with my career. So she has not spent a lot of time with children. I don't have any family here so all of her caregiving has been me. Her father refused to help since I am not working. He also didn't have the patience for all of the stress with her medical stuff, so he never bonded with her. We are no longer together because his expression of frustration became abusive. She is stronger with struggles that I believe would allow a partial daycare situation, so that I can work. She literally gets so worked up that she vomits, urinates, goes into an asthma attack when I try to get her to interact with anyone. Her pediatrician says it is normal. I just can't wrap my head around it being normal and I want to help her. Any thoughts? I don't know if I am asking the right questions and perhaps that is why I can't seem to get anywhere.