Most people in life can expect to have to take car of their parents in some way or form as they age. Me? I have been taking care of my parents since I was 14. See, my parents are both disabled. There are enough physical ailments and mental maladies between the two to fill a textbook. Without getting into specifics, my father is a 300 lb man who I have had to, routinely, physically get dressed and help move around. My mother is like a cracked china doll we must be very careful with, and assist her even with lifting a half gallon of milk. It's been my life for what feels like as long as I can remember, and I am in my late 20s now. I worked on my Bachelors Degree in Intercultural Relations in Florida while living with my parents. I helped support the house hold with my work, and I also helped support them-- doing everything from groceries and cooking to hour chores and running them to doctors. This was all done while attending school full time and working a full time and part time job. When I finished my BA I took a year off. In early 2015 my aunt came to help out her sister and my father and I left to seek out myself and learn who I was-- besides just my parents keeper. My journey took me to South Korea where I was an English Language Teacher for a little over a year. I found love, adventure, my hobbies-- I really did discover myself! And it was NICE. I was happy and not burnt out for the first time in who-only-knew how long! I sent money home every paycheck to help my parents with their bills. Upon returning to the USA I moved to upstate NY into the town my brother was working in. I enrolled in my Masters Degree in Education, taught as a long-term sub teaching ELA to ESE students in a 12-1-1 class room setting. I already knew most of the coping mechanisms for my students since I took so long taking care of my parents! Similar to Korea, I continued to send money home... I took my certification tests and worked my way through my certification tests-- passed them all with flying colors. Then came something called the EDTPA. It. Was. A. Nightmare. The EDTPA was the one thing standing between me and my teaching career! The issue was, I needed a full time long term position in a school I knew the demographics of inside and out. I needed to know my students, inside and out... And as a Sub, I couldn't do this. You see, I needed to plan lessons, explain why I planned them the way I did and then record myself teaching and explain why I taught the way I taught. It sounds easy-- but here I am 2 years later without a certification. I was unable to secure a position where I could film my class and write about it. In that time, my other exams have all expired. I was awarded my MSEd in 2018 and have been struggling to try and get my NYS certification since 2016. It's now 2020!!! That said, I have not given up my dream job as an educator. Instead, I have decided to take a half step back so I may keep moving forward. I am returning to Florida. Hard facing down 30, I am determined to get my career going!!! I plan on getting my initial certification in ELA and ESE-- as well as an additional TESOL cert. The issue is, this is the first time I am making a move without a plan. I am scared. What if Florida proves just as hard as NY to get my certification? What if I fail-- again? I am entering a situation where I can not support my parents, for the first time, and I feel guilty-- despite reassurances that it is okay and that I need to look out for myself. I feel tethered, despite now being free. My aunt assures me she has my parents taken care of. And so begins my third journey and attempt to make a career for myself as a teacher. Wish me luck! Any advice is so much more than welcome. I move in two weeks and feel more than a little overwhelmed.
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Why are you sending me inMail, offering opportunities and never bother to follow up???
Again today the same thing happening. A few days ago I received an inmail from a recruiter in a company that they have several opportunities, that my background looks good and can we meet? We exchange available time and then... nothing. Complete ghosting. As if they never contacted me! I almost feel I want to contact their boss and tell them what a bad opinion now I have about their company. And it is a very well known one. Why? Where is the professionalism, the common courtesy? So frustrated.
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Grateful to finally have interviews but I've used up all my PTO time including medical and dental appointments to complete the early rounds, what else can I do?...I've been struggling at a job that I've longed to leave for few months due to a toxic work situation.
The company won't let me take a lunch break and when I block out times to at least take a short break and they fill them with "required" meetings causing me to miss appointments. It's been a negative situation since I started and I'm emotionally at my breaking point so I need one of these to work!
I couldn't just quit as I needed to find a job first and then bang...a few opportunities. I'm in later rounds for three companies but I'm struggling to find time to interview. So many rounds at all the companies that I've used up doctor, dentist, PTO etc. vacation days and I'm not sure what to do to continue in this process besides taking a chance and leaving my role to interview.
I feel strongly about the roles but since I'm at the stage with senior members before the holidays, they don't have flexibility with their schedules. I've tried a few rounds with before and after work but these later rounds seem to be less flexible when it's with larger groups. Two companies want the successful candidate to start at the beginning of January so I don't want to miss my chance but as much as I'm ready to leave I'm worried to roll the dice if I don't get one of the positions and not have a job.
Please know that I'm grateful for this problem but it's a tough one to manage! I'd appreciate your advice!
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Why are there so many anonymous posters on here?
I am not talking about the people asking for advice, or making company-specific comments, but the people responding to the posts with general, non-personal, non-company specific comments.
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Hey looking for some advice.
So i got laid off this past week....and I'm trying to figure out my plan going forward. Luckily i have some cushion to be flexible. My career has always been data in one form or another....moving it...reporting it. I have a BS in Computer Information Technology. As I have always been intested in healthcare....I am interested in working with EMRs, so Im investigating a second BS in Health Information Management hoping it can help get my foot in the door (have had no luck in tthe past). But at 53 I'm wondering if its worth it.
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Struggling career pivoter
Has anyone changed careers from being a teacher to being in Human Resources and how long did it take to get a job? Also, how many HR roles did you apply to?
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I’m at a job where I it’s become clear no matter what I do, I’m reprimanded.
I have followed job assignments and done extra work on projects only to be told it wasn’t necessary. I recently created a seven page report in order to deal with a crisis situation and it was literally tossed aside. I just got an email from HR today requesting a meeting regarding an out of town conference I recently attended. I met with my colleagues and students months before the conference and informed them I would be leaving a day early to attend a family wedding. We came up with a plan to manage the days.
Two of my colleagues managed the conference for the last day and flew home with the students. I wasn’t given sufficient funds for Ubers and the hotel and I had to make multiple phone calls to resolve the situation. I know that HR is going to bring up the fact that I left early.
Recently, I had two other colleagues decide that we weren’t going to celebrate a well known holiday at our school. I told them it was not a good idea and that parents would not agree. When the parents protested (as they should have) I was blamed for not telling the colleagues the parents had already put a lot of work into that holiday. They told the parents it was a misunderstanding on my part and the school would celebrate this holiday. I refused to take the blame.
I know my days here are numbered and I am looking for other work. I just need help on how to manage my emotions and act professionally until I leave.