I need some real advice (not “ . . . she’s the only mother you’ve got so just let it go . . .”. My mother is ridiculously narcissistic and overbearing (to the point she sued my husband and myself for custody of our oldest child because she claimed we weren’t letting her spend enough time with our child - meanwhile she gives zero flips about our younger children) and a chronic gaslighted (she has actually lied about the fact that she sued us for custody - this court case is documented in court records so she is obviously lying). While she wasn’t granted custody, she did; however, receive visitation rights (along with other privileges similar to what a non-custodial ex-spouse would receive) because loopholes governing grandparents’ rights in our state allowed this suit to happen in the first place. Legally, she now has the right to intrude in our lives and be toxic around our children until the oldest turns 18. We can no longer make ANY decisions for our children without her and her lawyer stepping in if she doesn’t like our choices ( example: After I arrived back home from the hospital after giving birth to our youngest child, a letter from her lawyer was waiting in my mailbox. The letter stated that I had NO right to have our oldest child (and our middle child) with us at the hospital because my mother was more than capable of taking care of our oldest child that weekend. We had traded several visitation weeks due to my mother requesting various schedule changes throughout the year and this ONE request on our part in order for both of our children to be present the weekend that their sibling was born was treated like an actual crime - her lawyer had the audacity to threaten us with a court hearing due to this alleged violation of the visitation schedule). I am physically, emotionally, and everything else -ally exhausted by my mother’s manipulative behavior that NO ONE chooses to call her out on - even the people who clearly see that she is in the wrong. We can’t even move out of our current city until our oldest child is 18 because of the geographical restriction clause in the court order. We are literally and figuratively trapped and I’m at the point of a mental breakdown because all of this toxic behavior is being excused and justified. PLEASE ADVISE.
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Rival at work.
I have a colleague who I work with collaboratively for his technical knowledge which is impressive. He has been with the company for over 12 years now, most of them in Europe. I am in Canada. He moved to Canada a year and a half ago after I had been hired as a manager in Canada. He does not report to me. He is to help me with technical knowledge only. He helps everyone with technical knowledge actually. He told me in a casual, friendly conversation he wants to be in management and moved to Canada to pursue a promotion. As he has become more comfortable in his role, he feels the need to undermine my efforts. He lies to me, he one ups me on our open TEAM board at work and scoops projects with my customers behind my back. He takes credit for my work too. He is popular because of his impressive technical knowledge and is extremely helpful to the team overall. He has kind of entrenched himself at the company as the technical expert. However, he is making my job miserable. He cannot travel outside Canada due to his visa restrictions so he feels the need to build his name and clientiele with my Canadian customers. The rest of the team are in USA and they rely on his expertise but he does not intrude on their customers and projects. He did tell me the other day he feels that my position is not needed since he does it and I should talk with upper management about my purpose. He wrote this to me in a TEAMS chat. I am at a loss as to handle him. Any advice?
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Looking for Clinical Data Analyst roles where I can grow and learn!
I was laid off in June 2023 and am looking for data analyst roles, preferably in the healthcare field. I have four years of experience as a business analyst on a healthcare product, and am looking to pivot into more back-end work with data. I have some training in SQL, Python, R, and Tableau from graduate school, although I did not use these skills at my last job, and am working on improving them through a bootcamp. Aside from the difficult job market, I have had trouble finding a company willing to take on somebody who is new to the field but absolutely willing to learn and grow.
FYI I am currently based in Northern Virginia but am open to relocating for the right job opportunity and benefits.
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How do you negotiate salary?
Would love to know your tips, input, and all the things! I've read a bunch of good advice on LinkedIn and whatnot... but I'd love to know what this community has to share! Also – how do you stay confident when talking about money? And more specifically - as a woman when a man is interviewing you. Thanks in advance ✨
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I would never dare ask a recruiter this when discussing a job opportunity, but I have a dumb question.... When you are interviewing for a "contract" position through an agency.... are you truly locked into the timeframe they state? If you find a permanent job during that time, can you quit the contract job?
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Ready to take your career to the next level?
Watch this video about exploring career paths when your head says, “I don’t know." Acknowledgement of "not knowing" is the first step towards a successful career! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i2FLDPg3uV0
Remember, it's okay not to have all the answers right now, as long as you know how to move yourself forward and increase your clarity slowly but surely. A little progress can go a long way!
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Growing my resume!
Do you consider courses/professional certificates on Coursera to be valuable and/or worth the time? I have degrees, but there are some certifications that I feel would bulk my resume if Coursera is respected.