So I’ve known these two women since I was in 3rd grade we have over 20 years of friendship. One does her best to keep in touch and the other one checks in with my other friend to get dibs on how I’m doing instead of reaching out herself. I moved 2 years ago to a different state and they completely changed stopped stopped calling and texting but I’ve noticed they both watch all of my social media stories frequently it’s kind of comical. One friend finally reached out to congratulate me on the move the other just laid low. I found out I was pregnant and shared the news with both and they both were elated and said they would come out to to visit, one made it the other wrote me a day prior saying “Oh I have a brides makeup to do I can’t make it” (yea sure). Fast forward my other friend makes it into town and I’m bombarded with questions what do you drive, where do you work, what does your boyfriend do for a living, are you all renting or do you own. I couldn’t enjoy myself because I felt like she was a informant Yikes!
My mom tells me that my friendship with the two lady’s is fading and being held on by my chin hairs. Neither one of my friends have kids and my life is more family, and career focused. I wonder why we are even friends sometimes.
Does a true 20 year friendship really fade?