One of my direct reports who just relocated here is a bit overwhelming for our team. In general, she doesn't really have a sensor or self awareness in how to engage in social situations. Usually I appreciate honesty, but sometimes she takes it to the point of being offensive or rude or calling people out. I've talked to her about specific situations that came off wrong and she just shrugs and passes this off as her being a New Yorker and telling it like it is. She then claims everyone here is too passive aggressive and sensitive, and they need to get a tougher skin.
I don't know if this way of communicating actually flies in New York, but we are in Portland, and I actually grew up in a more remote part of Oregon. People here are generally laid back and friendly and take that kind of approach. While they can be direct, I have explained to her how on the West Coast people communicate differently, and it's an opportunity for her to grow her communication style with different types of people. She just responds that this is how she is and she's going to be authentic.
I don't want her to feel like she can't be herself, but she is literally TOO much, and doesn't seem to care about compromising or communicating in a way that would allow people to engage with her comfortably.
Any help for me?