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Penny
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08/24/18 at 3:24PM UTC
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My pregnancy story isn't what I was hoping for

Not long after my husband and I got married, we decided we wanted to have a kid. I had my regular OB checkup and let her know I was going to try and start trying to have a baby. After a few months of trying, she gave us some tips on how to increase our chances. Time was ticking and before we knew it we were on a “fertile” diet, tracking ovulation days, and spending tons of $$$ on pregnancy tests (there are so many kinds). After returning to my OB, we decided to go the Clomid route. No dice... So my husband went to get tested. His doctor visit included a clean cup and a not-so-clean magazine. Days went on, no news. No news, is good news, right? The doctor finally called to tell us that there was no sperm in my husbands semen. I’ll never forget that moment. I felt like I had passed out but was still standing. But I wanted to share because there are so many people that can’t conceive. And even if they can, miscarriages and complications happen. This is the story of life and we must talk about it vs. hide it. We’re heading to see a Urologist next week and who knows what will happen. Our story hasn’t ended but we’re along for the journey and are in this together.

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Anonymous
08/31/18 at 8:25PM UTC
I'm now 59 years old, and not a mother. My ex-husband and I got married young (18 and 20), and wanted to wait until I was out of college before having a child. So once, I graduated, we started trying. It took two years, and I finally got pregnant...then a miscarriage at 4 months. I took it hard, while my husband wanted to try again right away. It took me two years to want to try again, and by that time he'd started cheating on me with a bimbo with a child. I think he just wanted the child, because they got married and had a baby, then she cheated on him (surprise, surprise...snarky), and he ended up with custody of BOTH kids. That bimbo must have been some piece of work. Luckily, I never met her. As you probably guessed, I live in a very small town where people love to gossip!
Anonymous
09/04/18 at 2:03PM UTC
What a crazy story! Did you ever end up having kids with anyone else?
Anonymous
09/05/18 at 10:43PM UTC
No, I don't have kids, unfortunately.
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08/30/18 at 11:32PM UTC
Thank you for sharing. It’s so important to have these conversations, and it helps others feel less alone.
Anonymous
08/30/18 at 3:19PM UTC
We conceived twice and miscarried both. We eventually adopted but I can tell you just thinking back to those years brings back a lot of raw emotions. Wanting to be a parent and not having your body cooperate can be devastating. So many women (and men!) go through incredibly difficult times due to various aspects of infertility. Kudos to you for your openness. Praying for you as you continue the journey.
Penny
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09/04/18 at 2PM UTC
That's wonderful. Thanks for sharing. My husband is adopted and he still celebrates "gotcha" day every year. It's such a beautiful thing and we're definitely considering this.
Georgene Huang
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CEO & Co-founder of Fairygodboss
08/29/18 at 4:28PM UTC
Your partner and you may feel less alone after reading this article about male fertility declines in the west: https://www.ozy.com/rising-stars/sperm-counts-have-dropped-50-percent-can-she-find-a-fix/88573
Penny
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08/30/18 at 12:31AM UTC
Thank you!
Girly Girl
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08/24/18 at 11:33PM UTC
You're absolutely right, Nicole. People need to talk about this more. So many women I know who struggle with fertility wonder if its just them without checking, like you guys did, whether its the male sperm that's an issue. I am sure its not easy and you will find a way given your constructive outlook and attitude. PS to the person who was interested in Clomid, I've had a very good experience with it (conceived very quickly afterwards). My OB told me it was very safe (on the whole, across a large population) because a whole generation of women has used it.
Anonymous
08/24/18 at 7:43PM UTC
Thanks for sharing, Nicole. This was so encouraging to read.
Anonymous
08/24/18 at 3:25PM UTC
Thank you for sharing! I've been struggling to get pregnant for a few years now. I'm a little nervous about trying Clomid because of the side effects and the likelihood of having twins is so high!

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