This morning I woke up stewing about a situation with a new colleague that I'm finding difficult and frustrating. I found myself blaming him, feeling like "poor me", and wasting energy with a bunch of what if scenarios.
Then I remembered this train of thought is not going to get me very far. I remembered the lesson I learned last time I was in a similar situation and thought I'd share in case others are feeling similarly today.
The lesson? Deal With It or Let It Go - Don't Stew
For now, I'm going to let it go, since there's nothing productive to do at this moment. I have work to do, a family to raise, and joy to experience.
And, I'm making a plan to deal with it when the (condescending, over-talking, dismissive, know-it-all, blowhard) behavior occurs again, which it will.
I will pause, question the objectionable behavior as it occurs, look for common understanding and air-clearing opportunities, and depending on where that goes, start afresh, set a boundary, establish an expectation for future interactions, etc.
Hard to know exactly where the convo will go, but I'll arrive to it calm and ready to engage thoughtfully and rooted in respect for myself, others, and the shared mission we are working to advance.
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Hi all - ok this is a first.
The new boss, promoted from within, and I are a bad fit, to put it mildly. I put in my two weeks’ notice, and she replied that I could leave tomorrow.
Here’s the twist: I WANT to stay for two weeks, to put files in order, to coordinate with co-workers the processes for future events, and to finish setting up a Dropbox account for my department. Most of all, I work in a retirement community, and want to ease these beloved residents into the knowledge that their trusted friend is leaving them in good hands. They just lost the last ED without notice and took it badly.
This new boss rules with a cudgel. She starts all discussions with No you can’t do that. She changes my plans on ginned-up reasons (e.g. she canceled my bus trip due to “insurance changes” which had nothing to do with the trip). She lays down the law, and when advised of an error, she doubles down and tries to blame the victim of her error. She refers to staff members as “bodies,” and cares for the residents based on the level of their rent checks. I can’t get away from her fast enough.
Still, I have a good plan for leaving, and as you can tell from the above description of her, any discussion is going to go badly.
any and all advice is much appreciated!
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