This morning I woke up stewing about a situation with a new colleague that I'm finding difficult and frustrating. I found myself blaming him, feeling like "poor me", and wasting energy with a bunch of what if scenarios.
Then I remembered this train of thought is not going to get me very far. I remembered the lesson I learned last time I was in a similar situation and thought I'd share in case others are feeling similarly today.
The lesson? Deal With It or Let It Go - Don't Stew
For now, I'm going to let it go, since there's nothing productive to do at this moment. I have work to do, a family to raise, and joy to experience.
And, I'm making a plan to deal with it when the (condescending, over-talking, dismissive, know-it-all, blowhard) behavior occurs again, which it will.
I will pause, question the objectionable behavior as it occurs, look for common understanding and air-clearing opportunities, and depending on where that goes, start afresh, set a boundary, establish an expectation for future interactions, etc.
Hard to know exactly where the convo will go, but I'll arrive to it calm and ready to engage thoughtfully and rooted in respect for myself, others, and the shared mission we are working to advance.