How do you get over a layoff, *after* landing on your feet (or better)?
I was laid off last summer, the first layoffs ever in the company's multi-decade history.
I LOVED my job but had a terrible boss. We just never found our groove after a few years, so I was actually grateful for the layoff at the time because looking back, I should have quit LONG before. I was told about 15% of the company was let go but slowly started to think it wasn't nearly that many. (I was well-connected in the company and knew of a handful that were laid off, not nearly 15%, plus ALL of my work friends stayed there.) Truly, it feels like a few of us got fired but they called it a layoff so we could collect unemployment/etc., which of course was very appreciated, and COVID was convenient reasoning.
After the layoffs, suddenly the company's doing well. Acquires a new company! Starts hiring again, including swarms of interns. My former colleague (junior to me at the time) gets promoted into my role, and the team is now hiring for another one of 'me'. I truly don't know why, but it stings. A lot.
It took me a little while, but I landed on my feet. I'm still doing the job I love, with a better title, more money, and no shitty bosses. In fact, I just had my first review here and it could not have gone better. Why can't I stop looking backwards? I love my current job! Why am I still salty about my old gig?
It feels like getting dumped by a d-bag before you found your strength to leave, and the rejection sucks. Any advice other than "stop focusing on the past" would be so appreciated- I know that's what I need to do, and yet I can't seem to figure out HOW to actually do exactly that.