I started a job and things have been very frustrating to say the least. There's no clear direction. No goals or expectations clearly stated. My boss is absent and constantly cancels 1:1 meetings. When I do get info, it's secondhand and last min.
My boss sent me an IM and asked me to speak w/ another coworker who had her *hit together as he put it. He thinks she's running her team well and thought I should chat w/ her. So she and I had a conversation. She asked me how my 90 days had been and what's going on. She essentially confirmed that my boss is absent and that not hearing from him means you're doing well. She also told me that some of the projects he had me working on were bs and a waste of time. Her exact words were that they're setting me up for failure and that they're blowing smoke up my as* in regards to a project to change software platforms because IT, CEO, and others need to be involved in that process and we've only had our current software about 18 mos.
I appreciate her bluntness and also felt that the project was my boss grabbing at straws because it's clear that my position hasn't really been thought out. My boss has also asked for conflicting things w/ the project in terms of the goals or outcomes he wants. When I asked for a timeframe, budget, and contact info to get others involved such as IT, I received no response. So I haven't been given the tools to do what he wants.
I don't know anyone at the company and working remotely has made it hard to get to know anyone. To be honest I'm frustrated w/ the job and hate it. I don't think it's the right fit for me and I've been looking at other opportunities. Another manager reached out to me about the meeting on behalf of my boss, and asked how the meeting went and what she had to say/what advice the coworker had given me?? He wants to meet tomorrow to discuss on behalf of my boss. This fragmented communication seems weird to me. I didn't do much talking during the meeting besides asking her her title and what she does, how long she's been working w/ the team/my boss, and mentioning that I've been trying to get to know my team to better support them and working on this software project. And that's when she said yes, she thought getting to know the team was great, but that the project was a waste.
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Hate that the job searching and application process takes so long.
I'm fortunate to have a job but it's not a career role. I took the role to relocate but I'm finding that the position doesn't afford regular lunch hours to have interviews or provide the PTO I was offered when I accepted the role.
I know it's time to leave but I'm finding it so hard with events I need to run at night and teams during the day that I can't fully commit to job searching. I'm starting to feel that I made a mistake accepting this position but I needed the money. When I do get home, I spend time searching but roles have closed or already received the x number of applicants. I'd appreciate your advice. Is there anything I can do to combat this situation and I'm willing to put in the work.
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Hi new community!
Does anyone have any suggestions or guidance with breaking into a tech role with no experience? I'm currently taking courses through google and just wanted some other feedback if anyone else has gone down this path.
Thank you =)
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How to talk to HR about sexual harassment by a coworker?
Hi everyone! I just want to start by saying that I love my job. The work is steady, it keeps me busy, and the team I work with is great. In another department however, there is a man who has been working in that at the company forever and I am noticing some very disturbing behavior (as well as two of my male teammates). At first, it was just him standing way too close to me and trying to strike up very awkward conversations with me, but now it has evolved to him, staring at me, trying to poke his head around the corner to see if I am working while our shifts overlap, and I am told that might have even taken a picture of me while I was bending over to grab something on his work phone (I don’t have proof of this, but my male coworker and direct teammate said that this guy once showed him a picture inside of the manufacturing area where he works and he swears he can see me or another woman bending over to grab something clearly in the picture). All of this disturbed me enough to where I have made an appointment to talk with my HR representative at my company. I have not felt this disturbed or scared at a job ever. This feeling actually takes me back to the same fear I felt when I was 17 and was nearly raped and I desperately want it to stop. So my question to you is how should I begin the discussion with my HR representative when I meet with her about these events? Has anyone else ever gone through this and have some tips to share with me before my meeting? Thank you ladies so much in advance, I can’t wait to feel 100% comfortable at my job again.
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I received an offer letter on 9/25 for an overnight seasonal position for a large retailer.
I was told my 1st day and orientation would be 10/4/23 (shift started at 4am). Called today, 9/29, and finding out upon calling them, they'd done away with 4am and went to 10pm-630am. Do they have to honor some sort of offer for me? I said i'd do a 10-5 but they insist it needs to be the full shift. Any guidance would help.
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How do I handle a co-worker that is rude, mean, talks down to people, and just wont help when you have questions?
I have spoken to my direct manager, the director , and the HR. I have reported this a bullying and hostile environment.
There are 9 (including her) people in my team and 4 out of the 8 coworkers feel the same way and have made reports.
However the manager has yet to do anything. Other than looking for a new position, how do I handle this person? Shouldn't the HR be involved and do something?
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How Do I Explain a Crappy GPA???
I'm an attorney who worked with another attorney on a matter.
When the matter was resolved, the other attorney and I were making small talk, which ended up leading him to ask me to have coffee and discuss potentially working at his firm. I was very intrigued, met him for coffee a week later, and a week after that met with one of the firm's partners for an informal meeting to discuss me potentially joining the firm. A week later, I was asked to submit some of my work so they could gauge my experience in relation to the job, which I happily provided. I was then asked to provide my law school transcript, which I requested and am awaiting. Here is where my issue comes in:
During law school, I was going through an at-the-time unexplained illness which caused me to end up in the hospital on a few occasions, for days at a time. This affected my school work and resulted in me doing terribly during my first year, and although progressively better in the years to follow, I still did not get the GPA an employer would respect. I did end up getting an award for the highest gain in GPA during my law school tenure, but the end result is still something I'm not proud of. Since taking the bar exam 10 years ago, my illness has been diagnosed and my health issues have been resolved.
Herein lay my question: How do I explain this to this potential new employer? I don't want to come off defensive or like I'm making excuses, but it's definitely something I would want to know as an employer. Also, this is an ideal position during a time when I was already looking to leave my current firm for something more fitting.
Thoughts on how to bring this up? Any advice is appreciated!