Hey so I'm in a long distance relationship with this guy from colorado, background story I lived in colorado but I moved so I live in PA right now. I just recently moved out here and I was texting my guy friend that I've had feelings for (he's had feelings for me over a year) we recently started dating he calls me baby and stuff but when we're having a conversation he calls me "bruh" honestly dont know what to do because when I call him that he accuses me for friend zoning him. It's so annoying I confronted him about it and he denies it all the time. I really like him but i can't stand it anymore. Someone, anyone, please give me some advice.
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Dawn M Rollins-Murrell
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Champion for rights, creative writer, mom
12/07/20 at 7:17PM UTC
Okay, I'm a little confused. So is the long distance relationship person from CO calling you "Bruh?" Or the guy friend you have feelings for that you recently started texting and dating in PA? Are there two guys involved here? I am reading that you are in a long distance relationship with someone from Colorado but you are talking to a guy friend you have mutual feelings for in PA and he is the one calling you Bruh. No wonder you're confused! If you are talking to the guy in PA and having a long distance relationship with the one in CO, then you really must be in the friend zone with guy from PA. Maybe you are not quite sure who you want to be with because of the recent move? If the guy friend is calling you Bruh than he probably does not see you as his female relationship partner. Maybe he sees you as "one of the guys" right now and that can change later? Maybe that is just what he calls you because it is comfortable? It seems like you might have some soul searching to do as well because you are calling him your guy "friend" but referring to yourself in a long distance relationship with someone else too. Get some perspective and then decide who and what you want to pursue and why? Do you really like him if he can't even refer to you by your name? It might be a little lonely at first in a new place but that is a good time to remember who you are as a single person. When you consider that, maybe you will know who you need in your life right now, if anyone.
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annalee :)
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12/07/20 at 7:57PM UTC
oh my bad I'm only talking about one guy he's from CO and I'm dating him
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Pearl Wong
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User Experience Designer
12/07/20 at 9:57PM UTC
don't waste your time on someone who does not reciprocate.
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Suvidha Hughes
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HR professional, MBA, Assoc CIPD, SHRM-SCP
12/08/20 at 12:12AM UTC
Have an open conversation...without accusation blames etc...tell him how you feel...if that is not reciprocated move on do not waste your time but don't walk out without having a proper calm open conversation.
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annalee :)
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12/08/20 at 12:14AM UTC
thanks i have told him how i felt about it, he has apologized and he said that he'll work on it
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