I am an elected department head in a governmental position. Having worked in the department for several years, I put my name in the ballot when my boss retired, and won. I had to replace my previous position and chose what I thought was a quality candidate. After two years of working with her, I am finding very disturbing behavior. She tries to be involved in every aspect of the office although I have not trained her in several areas because she hasn’t mastered the basic activities I have assigned. She makes numerous mistakes and is very hostile to me when I attempt to correct her. Her behaviors are textbook gaslighting. Questioning if I remember things. Looking through my desk. Sending emails encouraging users of our services to contact her with her direct number. I have had to write her up on two occasions for being insubordinate. She is now in the mode of secretly talking to other departments on her own, garnering sympathy. I am miserable at work. A job I loved has become a source of stress and worry. She has done a couple of things that could have reflected on my integrity. She has worked in 3 areas of this governmental entity, thriving in none of them. This is a two person department and I am really struggling with how to handle her.
So far, I have been professional with her and not personal. No small talk. I have given her assignments and she is doing them very slowly. She will actually come out when I am with a customer and ‘butt in’, for which I have reprimanded her.
Any ideas? Comments? Suggestions?
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