a long-time staffer obviously has it in for me and I'm now her bullying target-- do I tell my supervisor?
February 25,2022 at 6:45PM UTC (Edited)
I joined my org about a year ago and have been doing very well there. Good reviews, launching new products, and just overall enjoying the job. There is one long-time staffer who has been there for 30+ years. From day one, she's had an issue with me and makes it her business to criticize everything I do. All of the leadership can praise a presentation I created and she will then email me nit-picky messages-- no one else cc'ed-- saying the font is too big, I used the wrong color, just small things that really don't make or break anything.
Or, I will email her for assistance with something and she will take days to write back, delaying progress of a project I'm spearheading. It's apparent that she's got an issue with me and things are starting to get worse with the emails tearing apart my work (and really, if she has a problem, please, please, please cc my boss and let's keep the critiques transparent). Otherwise, I have no issues with anyone there, no other complaints and I really like the company and culture. Do I just hope she's on her way out the door as she's been eligible for retirement for several years? I feel like I will need to say something eventually. At this point, when I do respond to her, I rope in a few other stakeholders and my boss so everyone is aware of what she's doing.
I'm in my mid-40s, which I read once is the most common age for women to be subjected to workplace bullying.
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