I saw a few posts about gaslighting recently on Fairygodboss, and it's made me question whether I'm being gaslit at work as well! I've been working with another team on a project and one of my coworkers keeps changing deadlines and project details — and waits to tell me until the last minute. When I don't get something done in time (because he's moved up the due date without much notice), I'm always the one at fault. When I complete something as we discussed, he's always critical and tells me I should have known to do it another way — even though we agreed on other details before.
Is this coworker gaslighting me? If so, how can I stand up to him without losing my responsibilities with this project?