I'm in the final stages of possibly landing a job at a phenomenal company out of state, in an area I'd love to move to. My SO and I would rent out there but we need to sell our house first. His job is flexible so no issue there and we don't have kids. Luckily we live in a desirable area where the houses…
Here are a things to keep in mind:
1. Doubt doesn’t make you an imposter, it makes you human.
2. You’re never going to know everything - no one does. …
Since then, I’ve been actively applying for jobs but rarely hear back. When asked why I’m looking for a new job in interviews, I haven’t always been sincere, giving different reasons. Recently, I decided to be upfront and told an interviewer that I was made redundant. But their response thre…
How do you deal with the catty "doubting Thomas" coworker?
We work in an environment where we HAVE to work closely together. There is no ignoring, avoiding or keeping my distance. Some of my guy friends in other…
I keep seeing the same job postings on Linkedin, Simplyhired, & Indeed. I need to get out of my job within the next month ASAP b/c my Supervisor is repeating the same behavior from last year where she takes extended leave EVERYTIME she has a family event that comes up & she says sh…
I need advice on an ongoing situation at my job which seems to be getting worse. Background: I am a 67 year old female working part time (30 hours) at a restaurant/gift shop. Been there 4 years.
About two months ago they hired a man…
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Goalsetter Stacey
Sounds like some jealously and insecurity on the part of your director. You have been there and know what you are doing and they feel new and unsure. But instead of supporting you and trusting you - they are filling you with doubt because it makes them feel better about their lack of knowledge. People can be so small at times. Look for something else where your obvious skills and confidence can shine.
Anonymous
I disagree with projecting jealousy & insecurity on this person's boss. Nothing like that is indicated in her post. They have different styles. The new manager has a different style than the previous one. The new manager doesn't know the OP enough to trust them yet - their reputation as a manager is also on the line. Every employee needs to show this new manager their competence & not be butt hurt & complain about things like the new manager following HR guidelines.
Anonymous
This is a tough one.
You say you’ve been in your position for ~2 years. And she’s been the sup for a few months?
It’s clear that your and her priorities aren’t aligned. One of two things is true: one, you know your position, team and projects better than she does and she’s undercutting you. Or two, she knows your position, team, projects and ultimately the company goals better than you do, and she’s having a hard time redirecting you.
Sometimes with head butting and power struggles of this nature, I just sit down with the person and have a candid conversation to figure out what values and priorities we share. Also, the way the cookie crumbles is…hierarchy and paying your dues are inescapable. Your last sup may have been happy for you to self-direct but this one isn’t. If after a period of time you truly come to believe that she’s incompetent, you’ll have to move on. But it seems like the main reason you believe she’s incompetent is that she doesn’t adequately praise you?
Lastly please don’t take one less-than-stellar review as gospel. It’s quite normal to have a bruising “sophomore” year.