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Question In the work place I feel high school never ended.
As I was reading an article , it does not really matter which one they are all the same these days. I feel like I am back in high school. When did adults get a pass for unprofessional behavior? When did it become acceptable for leaders to stop being leaders and be unprofessional? Why do we hold children to a higher standard of behavior than we do adults? It is not a vent. It is a survey. Select
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Crystal Rhinebergerprofessional rofl nevermind lets just wing it
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07/15/20 at 8:58AM UTC
Its been said with age comes wisdom. Thats not always true, definitely not in the professional end of things. I was in dog shows at an early age and wow the things that would be done and said. I have the neatest laughs from this. Also got a great eye opener of individuals.
I learned early on to listen and make a weighted decision the best I could and thats what I promote to my son
Deb StricklandDigital Marketing | Analytics & Tech Nomad
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07/14/20 at 4:45PM UTC
Very true, we never seem to escape the high school mentality even when working as adults. It's insane - the pettiness, gossip, back stabbing, and more and more. It has to be part of human nature that some see themselves as superior and they get power out of putting others down or seeing them fail.
This is one reason I've tended to stay to myself at work and be politely transactional, no friendships. Don't trust people at work is something to keep in mind.
Aly BrineHelping Corporate Hippies thrive on LinkedIn!
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07/13/20 at 1:10PM UTC
It's sad, right? I actually have a talk I give for women addressing the mean girls in the office and how there isnt a ton of media or spotlight brought to women bullying other women in the workplace.
RachellePayroll Accountant ,Phoenix AZ
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07/13/20 at 3:15PM UTC
It is sad,and confronting them in the real world has consequences. A coworker once told me this African Proverb. He said" never argue with the one who has the Kings ear."
Anonymous
07/13/20 at 1:32AM UTC (Edited)
I agree with you, Rachelle. I think the tide turned toward unprofessional behavior because the anonymity of the digital universe has enabled people to hide our "dark sides" behind a secret facade where no one holds us accountable. This has been going on for so long now that unfortunately the line between private and public behavior has become blurry. Prior to the digital age, an individual's professional survival required us to adjust our behavior to stay in line with professional, ethical, and societal codes. Workplace mores were fully understood and obeyed by the workforce. People toed the company line so we could keep our jobs. Getting out of line meant negative consequences "when the boss found out." People were afraid of getting caught and were actually ashamed of or at least embarrassed by our bad behavior. Now that we live in a society where people are proudly identifying themselves publicly as racists, misogynists, xenophobes, and haters of all types, all bets are off for the workplace. If society at large does not have a baseline for acceptable public behavior and civil discourse, then the workplace won't either. Also, so many companies are guilty of horrendous behavior (tax-evasion, poisoning the environment, looting employee pension plans, creating the billionaire class, etc.) in the race for domination and wealth that employees can't even rely on the institutions they work for to set an appropriate example of professional behavior. It's grim.
RachellePayroll Accountant ,Phoenix AZ
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07/13/20 at 3:10PM UTC
I am a Jungian and in terms of psychology the behavior you describe fits together like this. The Persona is the person or "mask" we show the world it does no not reflect who we really are , but how we interpret the world expects us to behave. The Shadow is where all the traits of our personality we do not want to acknowledge exist, and we keep the door closed tightly, sometimes because those thoughts scare us, and sometimes we do not want others to know this is what we think and feel. The Self the authentic you is the unification of the conscious and unconscious traits of our personality that are integrated to make a person unique. This is an over simplification of the archetypes but it is accurate. The self or the Id must be protected at all cost . The shadow must be acknowledged or it will spill out at the most embarrassing times. Have you ever met a person and instantly disliked them? There shadow was poking your shadow. It is easy to see the shadow in others but not in ourselves. The Persona is the mask we show society. My mask can change in an instant depending on who I am interacting with and what I perceive they expect from me. But at other times my shadow and my Id are in conflict and causes an interesting mask to be made. When there is conflict in your core belief system with the persona you display you get fits of anger ( which is not a real emotion usually fear) or outburst that are so ugly and does not fit the situation. We all have prejudices. It is part of human nature. I watched a video of people who did not want to wear a mask. and they all overacted in such a manner it was interesting. The answer was not real as anger is not a real emotion. For a psychologist who enjoys studying human behavior today is a great time to be alive.
Bonnie
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07/12/20 at 10:42PM UTC
There are times when I ask these questions myself. I've come to realize that some environments are not effective but I'm optimistic that effective environments can and do exist. It all depends on the individual in any given situation. For me, it took a layoff to force me into a position of exploring the next steps in my career.
RachellePayroll Accountant ,Phoenix AZ
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07/12/20 at 10:46PM UTC
Great Job Bonnie . Me too I am looking at starting a side company training .
Bonnie
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07/13/20 at 12:38AM UTC
Sounds like an exciting adventure ahead! In today's remote workplace culture, now is a great time to build a side company especially if it's related to your professional experience.
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